Step moms help!! The bio mom is absent in the kids lifes unless it flavors her. I've noticed I got this guard up with her and I feel a little over protective when it comes to the kids. She is unreliable and hurts the kids by getting their hopes up. Am I overactiving??
Things I never thought I'd say... Until I became a mom:
Am i the only mom thats not getting dressed up for halloween im just doing the kids this year
my mom died this morning. She lived with me. this morning she woke up and went to the bathroom. i was on zoom and i heard a bang. she died in the bathroom. i wasn’t able to open the door or help her. she’s had health issues but this was unexpected. my kids were at home, i had someone come get them. i had to stay in the house with her body until the funeral home came to get her. idk how to tell my kids. they loved her sooooo much. i don’t know how to be at home. i’m just so lost. she was all i had. my dad died when i was 12. idk i just wanted to vent.
Mom life come on now! The man looking for love profile is still up. You gotta be kidding me 🤬🤦🏼 ♀
elexius harris·
I'm not a step mom but I have one and I've had her for a fee years now. In my opinion you aren't overreacting at all. By all means she is their birth mom but if you are the one taking on the responsibility of them as a mother you have every right to feel the way you do .
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@elexius_renea Yeah I respect her as the mom. It just hurts me to see her hurt the kids cause she wants to be selfish. She gets the kids hopes up and I'm left putting the pieces back together. the 4 year old is in counseling cause the bio mom only wants to see the kids if it flavors her. She has gone weeks to months not wanting anything to do with the kids. The longest she has gone without seeing them was six months and then she showed up at our house on xmas wanting the kids cause her family was in town
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@elexius_renea Maybe I'm overacting. It just hurts to see the kids go through this. I'm with them 24/7 and do everything with them. I love them and treat them like they are my own
elexius harris·
Look at it this way from someone who's been where they are now, they see you, the one who's there with them and for them 24/7. They also see the one who's never around and who's isn't playing mom very well. St any age a kid can see those things better than us parents think. When they see her they may still run and hug her like nothing happens but when she's gone and you are there they know in there heart's that your doing everything you can for them.
elexius harris·
Little minds have really big thoughts. Emotions. And really big hearts.
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@elexius_renea Thank you for understanding! It's really hard :(
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@elexius_renea I guess I'm just over protectiving. You are right they know who is always there and I guess I'm just trying to keep her from hurting them. But by all means they need mom cause I will know be her.