I've lived in bakersfield for over ten years on and off. Had friends up til my first daughter was born. Since being a stay at home mom... I have learned friends are extremely hard to come by. I still haven't found one yet.
I have lived in the same town for 5 years and still have pretty much no friends here cause all I do is go to work and take care of my kids. I had one friend here and she moved out of town. Now I'm solo again.