please no rude comments. I'm so conflicted. I really can't stand my boyfriend's son. We only have…

What's The Problem? Is He Disrespectful?

@destineemh to put it as simply as I can...he is a liar..he goes home to his mom's and says we don't feed him or pay attention to him

He is very whiny and a brat. Very picky with food. Like I'll make them food and he looks at it like it's shit. hes sneaky and will be mean to my kid and thinks no body sees. He tattles on everything my son does (he came and told on my son one time because he farted 😑) he doesn't ever do anything he just wants to sit and watch tv all day. He says he "needs a break from playing". He refuses to play outside etc.

Are you having a baby with your boyfriend? I might be worth trying to solve the lying behavior, and help this boy, so you can have your man around for you and your new baby?

@charlottemiller9 I'm not sure how to stop the lying and I don't think its my place to be trying to discipline him anyway

@jenny73, Oh Geez, He Sounds Just Like How My Step Sister Use To Be @ Age 12 &' I Still Don't Like Her To This Day &' She's 22. I Completely Understand Where You're Coming From, So No Need To Feel Bad. Have You Talked To Your Boyfriend About It? Depending On How The Little Boys Mom Is &' Her Maturity Level, I'd Have A Talk With Her &' Your Boyfriend &' Let Them Know About Their Sons Behavior. Sometimes, Depending On Age, It Takes Time For Them To Grow Up, But Unfortunately Sometimes They Never Do😒

@destineemh yeah and I feel bad for not liking him because hes a kid lol but I just can't stand it when he's here. And I'm not sure what to do. My bf kinda knows how I feel. I haven't come out and said anything cuz I don't wanna offend him. And no the kids mother is not mature enough to have a convo like that with lol but I already told my bf if his son lies like that again I'm calling her. Because she has called bitching at my bf and saying he cant see his son any more because "we don't feed him" etc

And I'm not gonna have some lil brat making my house seem like some terrible place to be

And his mom is the type of girl that will keep his son away until she wants a break then shes like come get ur son 😬

@jenny73, Oh She's One Of Those, I'm So Sorry You're Going Thru This. More Than Likely He's Getting His Behavior From His Mom. But She Can't POSSIBLY Think Y'all Aren't Feeding Him 😑 Maybe Try Spending One On One Time With Him, Maybe That'll Help Things A Little.. Maybe Take Him Out To The Park Then Get Ice Cream Or Something &' Talk With Him &' See If That Helps. (I Don't Know His Age, So It Might Not Work)

@jenny73, I think every "blended@ family has their own struggles and I will say it is VERY VERY hard. My step sons are 13 and 16. I love them so very much but we have our struggles. My 13 year old is at the very unappreciative lazy stage and it kills me. We have a 5 year old as well and of course one on the way. My biggest advice would be you have to be honest with your boyfriend and he has to step up and handle it. Not that you can't handle it together but he needs to be on board as well. As far as the ex/mother - I would ignore her. I have found not allowing them to bother you and getting into the "drama" of it is just better. Kids re famous for going back and forth and saying what gets the excitement out of the other parent. You know you feed him and take care of him so say that and be done. The back and forth so isn't worth it. It can be a real struggle girl I so understand!! It is very very hard and you have to be all in! Hopefully you can talk to him and you guys can get on board together!! 💙

@usafwife thank u. I think I may sit down with my bf soon n talk bout it

It is wrong to break up with your bf over your step son. Bc at the end of the day you knew he had a kid.

BUT on the hand maybe you should talk to your bf bc the kid is obviously going through something. And needs some help. I don't think your wrong for not liking him. But your bf also needs to CHECK his baby mom.