my SIL wants me to have a 2nd baby shower because I'm having a boy this time. I told her I'll be…

my SIL wants me to have a 2nd baby shower because I'm having a boy this time. I told her I'll be doing a welcome baby shower once he gets her so people can meet him cause I don't find them appropriate even if I'm having a diffrent sex baby from the 1st. we already have everything and my mom has gotten us great clothes from goodwill. so really all we need is diapers...she told me handle downs are not as good as getting new and Peyton should have his own....babies only wear clothes once or twice so what's the point...the only brand new outfits I got was his coming home and a few newborn onsies. is it me or was she down playing my mom cause she got me 2nd hand not new.....they be going back to goodwill once I'm done with them anywaysm