So, my fiances mom has told me today we need to get married quickly. You know rush instead of having the date I want. Why? Being pregnant out of wedlock is bad and she doesnt want anyone to say anything or the baby to know. His Dad is a preacher and is going to start preaching again and doesn't want people looking down at us. The thing is... I am pagan. Not Christian.
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We were already getting married. They just want me to move the date sooner. I have no wedding anything. Not even a dress.
I would never want my daughter to think that I married her father only because we had her. We're getting married this year, and it's because we love each other and don't wanna be without each other. Not because we have a kid together. Do what's best for YOU. ❤
This angers me. I hate hate hate when people (especially family) want you to do things THEIR way just because of their beliefs and they don't wanna look bad. 😒
I can understand their side. The church is what they have. To be honest their church is creepy. But I am sure pagan temples would be creepy to them. I will be discussing the date with them. I will be 5 months pregnant on May 1st. I don't think I will be showing because...well I am just fat. So, the baby won't have to know the year we married.
Thanks y'all. I will have to talk to his Mama. She seems to get me just a little bit.
My thing is, its a bit selfish of them to do that. Their son SHOULD care that they are applying this pressure. If u let them do this selfishly, they will continue to do things of this nature. U really do show people how to treat u in the long run. It's comical kinda....they r trying to make u guys do something so that THEY will look better.....come on nah!
@cubanese I don't love them like that...It might make things awkward. ...
The would love if I would convert. Their son is not even penicostal. He does not care for any religion. The baby will be raised knowing both Christian and Pagan. That way the baby can choose when older. I love his parents. They are very nice. I just don't know how to tell them about the date I chosen.
I live with them and they are paying for the wedding. I am just a little upset that they want to move the date. I let them choose where and My FIL will be marrying us. That means a lot to them. I wanted May 1st because its a pagan holiday. So something could be pagan. Although when our first was conceived I was last year in May. Full pagan style. I actually considered that a pagan wedding. But I have not told them the importance of the day. They on purpose was not told everything about my religion. They only have a slight inkling.
get married when you're ready! not anyone else.
But may I ask what does being a pagan have to do with marriage? Are they expecting yoy to convert?
do it your time love