@mamalotus, exactly! At first it was fine... but once my contractions started they were less than 2 minutes apart... and I would get waves of 3-4 of them at once... that's when I was like NOPE! Your focus is here! Period! No distractions!

@dreamermom haha good daddy. if I even see his phone it's going into the birthing tub. hahaha not really but ya... lol 😂

@mamalotus, yeah, my mom was blowing his phone up asking for updates, it made me SO annoyed... between contractions I said 'your phone is.... pissing my off!' 😤 so he put it away immediately! It seemed every time I opened my eyes he was on his phone typing... I was thinking he should be using those fingers to rub me not text DAMN it! 😅 he's such a good man! He never pulled it out again until after the birth to take some pics! 😁

@mami1234 haha true... thank you! I hope all goes well with your pregnancy.

@mommy.to.sterling well false contractions. I'll be 40 weeks Friday. I do hope he comes soon or a few days after his EDD. we'll see. I'm just taking it easy, going with the flow. also annoyed lol my brother called me tonight. he's anxious but gosh so am I... how is your pregnancy going??

@kitcatmeow8383 I'll just have my husband. gosh if my brothers would only come for a quick visit they would be welcomed sooner...but my family can TALK. no thanks, guys. no freaaaking thanks. I really can't think of a single family member or friend that would respect my time. yes they love me, but I can't trust them to know when to go. they think it's some celebration, like I'm giving birth to Party Boy. 😂 my brother said "we'll all come over & have dinner" what the fah? who is "we all" & who is making dinner?? what food are you cooking with??! lol...

@dreamermom yes! you go, mommy. I just can't tell anyone I'm in labor. I told my husband I don't want to hear about anybody until the baby is out. he works with family & I just know that if I go into labor during his work hours his brother & uncle will know & then the texts will roll in from his family. I'm just going to turn off my phone & thankfully my in laws either live far away or have no idea where I'm birthing at. husband knows not to invite anyone. 🙏

@valrocks thank you. I get what you're saying, but I'm not denying help. people aren't offering help. they are simply wondering when they'll see the baby. I don't have a mother nor a father. Husband's parents are passed away, too. I have no relationship with my aunts & my grandmother is in an assisted living home. my brother's wife has offered to help, but she's dealing with postpartum depression & has a 1 yr old-- she's depressed & I'm not going to ask her for help. my husband works from home & is taking the first week off work so he can cook & do whatever needs to be done. he's extremely supportive & I know he'll have my back. we've already talked about it many times. It takes a village to raise a child, but I prefer during our bonding time that it's only mommy & daddy. 💞 everyone else can wait their turn.

My mom brought me dinner everyday for the first week and my mother in law rocked my baby for 2 hours while I napped the day after we got home from the hospital. That first night home was intense. I needed that nap so bad. I was so grateful that when I thanked her after I woke up I cried. It takes a village. Don't be afraid to ask for help and take advantage of anyone offering help. On the same note don't feel like you have to entertain people. If they're just there to get their turn then they can wait.

You would have thought it would have been easy to keep family at a distance since they live 10+ hours away... but they drove down the second they heard I was having complications! 🙄 and it was high BP... every time my mom walked in my room the alarm would sound that my BP was too high... I finally just told the nurses I did not want anyone on the l&d floor except my husband, and doula... then after the baby was born I was restricted to my bed, and could not see my baby for 24hrs... so I told my husband I don't want anyone but him holding her until after I did... and my mom and grandma got SO mad about that... but I did not care! She needed to bond with me first! Even the nurses did not hold her just fed and cared for her until my husband came down... I sent him every time I pumped... and made sure he stayed with her for at least 20 minutes every time! They have such an amazing bond now... I just love it! People get over it... it's your baby, do what you want!

@mamalotus they know they just don't care but I hope all goes well for you during your birthing journey 😊😊😊😊

@mommy.to.sterling 🙏 thank you for sharing. the more people relate to this the better I feel. I know that's silly, but it's nice knowing I'm not the only one.

@mami1234 yay that's great. I'm only having my husband too because he's the only one who understands that I'm about to go on a wild unmedicated journey... nobody seems to get how intense this will be for me. I mean birth in all forms is stressful. I just don't think my family understands fully what's about to go on.

@morganmommy79 it's so annoying. plus it's flu season... get away from meeee😣

@dawnrose thank you. that's what I was thinking too. :) @nowmrspost not cool. I'm so happy my in laws live hours away! my bro in law isn't pushy so I'm not worried about him.

I didn't want my mom there when my son was born but I had no choice she was one that took me to the hospital and stayed with me untill my husband came and still stayed but this one she's not coming with me . she will watch my son and it will just be me and my husband 😊😊

With my first baby I didn't want anyone around. My mom was a huge help but even with her I didn't want her there too long. I'm a private person and I hated trying to breastfeed with everybody coming in and out and trying to touch/hold my baby. Ugh nobody needs to be carrying germs in anyway. My second wasn't as bad but I was still cautious and didn't want a lot of visitors. Now, it's like my first again. I'm so glad my hospital is almost 2 hours away so most can't travel there. I want to hold MY Baby and bond with her before everyone else gets their hands on her. I know they mean well but it's annoying to me. 😕

I just asked people to give me time to adjust to the new baby, I said that bonding with baby with just me and my husband was important to me and him. that when I was ready for visitors I'd let them know.

I told them I'd let them know when I was ready for them to visit. we had a storm the day she was born, so MIL pretty much told me when they were gonna come (before it was supposed to get bad) and I could sleep later....I was pissed but couldn't say anything

I understand how you feel. I had a lot of people there and wish my husband an I had had some time just the two of us as our little one came into the world. But we did have a lot of just us bonding with them after the births.

@kellyl22 I'm so not telling them. THANK YOU. you're right. they won't even care & if they do... tough 💩.

@kellyl22 thank you. I'm not alone. 🙏 I just feel people are so used to coming and seeing a baby after it's like an hour old and I just don't get that. so I feel like people are really confused about my request of not having guests over right away. I'm doing a birthcenter so I won't be staying overnight unless something happens. Typically four to six hours after birth Mommy goes home. 4-6 hours is not that long and I really want to use that time to talk with my midwives and to bond with my baby before I go home. I'm going to be so tired and learning how to take care of this baby. I really want zero distractions and only the support and help from my husband and midwives. I mean I'm not trying to pop my boobs out in front of my brother lol

@mamacole2 of course my brother thinks I'm going to text him the second I have my first contraction 🤣 but nononono. my secret, my birth.

@mamacole2 yes I'm doing a birth center, but same applies. I told my brother I won't be having guests & he's cool with that, but he passive aggressivly today invited himself over a few days after baby's birthday. after that call I texted his wife & nicely explained how this is all getting to me & I'm getting anxiety because people are being pushy. she said she understands so no worries. still I just curious if anyone else can relate. I appreciate your help. I won't be telling anyone but my husband obviously that I'm in labor so I'm not worried about people popping up during labor & delivery.

Literally just don't tell them. They can't be mad if they don't know and then when you do let them come around everyone will be so happy to see the baby that they won't bitch at you for taking that time for yourself. That's what I did. No one knew I had my daughter until after we got home and she was in the nicu for 6 days too. I'm glad we decided that cause only like 3 people know she was in nicu

Most hospitals will let you say if you want visitors or not and when or who.