cassandra
cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

so my boyfriend and I live with his parents with out almost 2 week old son... his parents and his mom always want to hold him like all day everyday and get mad when I take him upstairs in our room... I'm not breast feeding... my question is with me not breastfeeding and his mom constantly holding him will he know I'm his mom? that's my biggest fear... my son not knowing who I am and thinking she's his mom.

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@k.v.baby yes lol OMG. I was so happy when I could finally go up the stairs so they would stop hoovering but when I come down from changing him there like what are you doing to hurt my baby or why are you hurting my baby like seriously your not funny

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k.v.baby
Victoria Bui·Мама дочки-младенца

I know how you feel 😒 it is annoying. His mom would come up to our room really quick when she hears the bby cry and ask what's wrong. (She was just getting a diaper change) lol 😪😪

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

tries to be better than me because she already raised kids.

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@k.v.baby I doubt I'll feel better then he's older. they hoover him when he sleeps too and when I or my boyfriend change his diaper. she

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k.v.baby
Victoria Bui·Мама дочки-младенца

@cassieleighx33, yes I live with his parents :) I feel better now that she's a month old. And you should try eating vegetable soup (carrot, potato, broccoli in chicken broth) to increase your breast milk. 🙂 I can pump up to 4 oz. Hopefully it will increase later on.

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@k.v.baby exactly this us why I can't breastfeed and am drinking this tea to help increase my milk supply because it went way down he won't even latch anymore. what did you do girl? do you live with them

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k.v.baby
Victoria Bui·Мама дочки-младенца

I had the same situation EXCEPT I'm breastfeeding my bby !!! I would be mad when his mom would always want to hold the bby for a long time. Then I would miss breastfeeding. 😑 my bby was born a week before Christmas and with all the holidays It was tough for my bby not getting sleep for a long period of time or getting breastfed 😡 I would feel rlly anxious when someone takes my child away from me in the first month Bc I think that's when ur bby rlly needs u.

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@brbsmomma thanks girl

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brbsmomma
Krystal·Мама дочки-младенца

I understand where you're coming from, but if you don't establish custody in a legal way as soon as you can then it will be harder for you down the road, if you decide to move in with your parents. I wish you luck with it all and sending good vibes your way💜

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@brbsmomma part of me wants to but the other part doesn't because I don't want to do that to him

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brbsmomma
Krystal·Мама дочки-младенца

If you decide to stay with your parents go right to the court and establish your custody

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@brbsmomma and that's what I was hoping for but it doesn't seem to have made a difference

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brbsmomma
Krystal·Мама дочки-младенца

You're right. Sometimes it takes the baby actually being there to make a man grow up, but in his case it doesn't sound like it made a difference. Don't worry about the threats, you do what's best for you and your baby and no court will be able to decide that he's more deserving

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@brbsmomma exactly! he should have gotten one when I was pregnant knowing how much pain and swelling I had I shouldn't have had to work til my due date

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brbsmomma
Krystal·Мама дочки-младенца

I'm so sorry you're going through that. And I'm sorry you're with a man who thinks there is such a thing as a "pity job" when there is a child involved. That's just ridiculous, any job is a job when there is a child who needs to be financially supported

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@mommy1987 thanks girl it's scary because I don't want my kid to grow up with a broken home and family... and he won't take pity jobs he has such a big head

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@mommy1987 I'm going back to my parents Friday after my 2 week check up with my doctor for my C-section incision I might stay a little longer until he gets a job IDK yet I was only going to stay til February 21st because my boyfriends birthday is the 25th and I was gonna go back to work the 29th but I was thinking today staying a tad longer. but then he will think it's my parents keeping me not my choice

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wvgirl
Wvgirl·В ожидании первенца

he is just running his mouth trying to scare you. he nor anyone else can keep you from your child. seems to me like your best bet is to go be with your family instead of living in a situation like that because it's not good for you or your child. tell your bf when he gets off his ass and gets a job and can afford gas than he can visit ya'll.

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@danielswifey that's what I was thinking and my parents live in PA and that's where I would go in a heartbeat. and I have since I moved in in July... we agreed he would have a job within a week of the baby being here and now he wants to wait for his parents business to reopen in March which is not a reliable income

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wvgirl
Wvgirl·В ожидании первенца

i would tell him get a job lol

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wvgirl
Wvgirl·В ожидании первенца

oh that's bull you are the mother and his ass don't even have a job. plus if you go out of state his aunt has no jurisdiction.

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@danielswifey apparently he can he says all he has to do is make a phone call... his aunt works for the courthouse for the judge but IDK.

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wvgirl
Wvgirl·В ожидании первенца

you don't deserve to be in that stressful of a situation and your bf should be taking your side, he needs to get a job and if you would decide to go back to your parents he can't just keep your baby.

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del_1533783292_anmlopez

@cassieleighx33, omg what a terrible situation. Kudos to you for working so hard. I am so sorry you're going through that but like how @theycallmemomma you and your baby do have a special bond but I totally understand your concern because I would feel the same way. Try to get him on a schedule asap if you don't already have one so they can't interfere with it. Like no I have to give him his bottle now, no he needs to be in his crib and just put your foot down on it.. I really hope things get better :(

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cassieleighx33
cassandra·Мама сына-младенца

@anmlopez I bitch to my boyfriend about it and he's such a mommy's boy he doesn't see anything wrong with it. I have to leave my baby to go back to work in 4 weeks and it scares the shit out of me. we can't get our own place because he doesn't have a job I busted my ass my whole pregnancy til the day before my csection. I wouldn't mind her holding him if she went differently about it. like yesterday he was sleeping all day and everyone holds him all day everyday so I put him in his crib when he's sleeping so he gets used to it but he was with me all day yesterday upstairs and at midnight she tells my boyfriend to tell me I want to hold him bring him down. I gave her to him for an hour because he already threatened if I leave to go back to my parents in PA that he will keep the baby

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theycallmemomma
erin·Мама дочки (1 год)

dont worry, you and your baby have a special bond that no one can take away ☺. but its also good that he feels safe with other family members too.

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del_1533783292_anmlopez

I wouldn't worry but I definitely would take charge and take your baby back. That's your kid and whenever you want him you take him. I know that awkwardness because my mil tried doing that to me when I was with her and I didn't want to seem like an ass but my husband said that's our baby you do to her what she does to you what's the worst they can say? Do lots of skin to skin it helps out a lot, wonderful bonding time :) don't let anyone push you around, you're mama bear. You got this girl!

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