I think I'm having post partum depression. However, not towards my Daughter. I love her more than anything in this world! But the one person who I would expect to be there for me is now avoiding me and it's my Mom. She is upset because my Dad who wasn't there for me as a child is now helping with his Granddaughter. He and I had a talk 15 years ago and he apologized and said he would always be here for me from that point forward and he has fulfilled his promise. I'm about to be 33 years old. I don't have time to be bitter about a past I can not change. My Mom wants me to hate him because she does and I think that's absurd. I didn't choose him to be my Father, she did! I didn't ask to be here. I have never been a Mother before and if it weren't for my Mother in-law, my Husband and I would be lost because my Mom won't even come by now. My Dad got us baby supplies and paid a few of our bills. I'm not going to refuse help from my Dad only because it makes my Mom upset. Furthermore, I'm healing from a C-section and trying not to have a meltdown because I need to be strong for my Husband and Daughter and I had Preeclampsia while pregnant and my blood pressure is still high. I don't understand my Mom's point of view at all, but she is hurting me. The last time I tried to talk to her about it, she cursed me out. I give up.
@rodriguez13 That is EXACTLY how I feel about the whole situation.
Some moms are just like that my mom is same way. Even though my dad is there for me she still is mad at him about past stuff that's happened 21 years ago. And I just got to the point where I don't care because like you said I didn't choose to be here and maybe she should've thought about stuff before she had a baby with him. And I'm not gonna not have a relationship with my dad because of problems she has with him.
@jaidensmommy I hope she does, but you're right. I can't be stressed out, especially now. So if she never sees it rationally, I'll just have to let it be. Pray on it and keep taking care of home is what I'll be working on ❤
@concrete You're right. She has to see it. I hope she does soon, but my main priority is my little girl so I'll have to let it be ❤
Wow .. I hate this for you but through it all you have to stay strong for your family. It's a blessing that you do have your dad and mother in law helping you all but sad because the person you need the most won't set aside her feelings and be there.
I would say try to talk to her again but if you've tried to talk to her and she only results to negativity then let it be. Continue getting by and pray she has a change of heart. Sooner or later she will come around
I am very sorry! you cannot really change her attitude; she has to do it. no matter how much it hurts, focus on your baby, on healing, and on your relationship in your nucleus family. 💚 @lovingbabykaidence
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Well I understand completely more than you even know I been dealing with it all my life 🙄😞