It's so hard to leave albie to cry and fall asleep on his own and in his cot 😭 it's even worse when…

Are you doing controlled crying? xx

I'm sure you have but have you tried stroking his face, down his nose? When Max is really upset I do that, or rock him off to sleep without getting him out of the cot. That way your still there, interacting with them but keeping them where they are.

@holliesinead, I do what @sara-lou, said, after her bottle I wind her and usually she's very relaxed but not quite asleep, Kay her down in her crib all swaddled and cosy with Ewan the sheep on, them if she doesn't settle I just pop back in and stroke her head and pop her dummy in and she calms right down, I never really leave her crying long at all. I may have to go in quite a few times but she usually settles after a few times of going in x good luck xxx and just think your giving them the independence to get off to sleep which in turn makes them more happy and confident in themselves xxx

I do the exact same @hawkie75 When people hear I don't get them out the cot they assume I leave them to cry. I've never left either of my boys to cry or get distressed. But at the same time I don't get them out of the cot unless they have worked them selves up. I'm up like a yo-yo some nights if their poorly or teething etc, but on normal nights it's really helped them settle to bed themselves.

I do the same, I only get Scarlett out of her cot if she's really worked up. The amount of time I've stood leant over her cot the last week is stupid as she's teething badly. I just hold my hand on her when she's laid down, stroking her face if she's moaning. X