Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
so I need some advice, I'm currently pregnant from a man who is married with a ten year old. he says he married her because they were young and how he was raised that if you get someone pregnant you have to buckle down and be a man. now that I'm pregnant he says my child has to be a secret. no family from his side and none from myself because I have no family. I feel like my child is coming into this world like a burden from him. and I have no respect from my kids father . even worse he sleeps over his wife's house more that I'm pregnant and I got us our own place than when we were crashing on his ex girls house. I just feel like my child is getting the shit end of the stick and as a mother I feel like a piece of shit. I don't know what to do he doesn't treat me right. lives of off my minimum wage job. I have mental problems so people leaving my life causes long term trauma. so I don't know what I'd do if he weren't around . but he's not a positive influence and I'm expecting my first child.
Rant My SO has been rude a lot ever since I've gotten pregnant...he said he doesn't care about my pregnancy, he doesn't even take one day off from work just ONE to come to at least one ultra sound appointment. I mean he's always making sure I'm fed, he lets use the heating pad, and even apologized to saying he doesn't care. He can mess with me all day but when I want to join and play around he gives me an attitude. He just makes me feel like s*** at times. He's a great fiancé don't get me wrong, but he can really get on my nerves and makes me upset to the point I go to bed earlier than him and cry until I fall asleep. Idk if it's the hormones or something/: I try to be a great fiancé. But I always seem to fail /:
advice needed! my 7 year old son still wets the bed at least 3 times a week, I've taken him to see a specialist and he's fine, but nothing helps I don't allow him to drink anything after 6pm, I make him use the restroom before bed and I wake him up in the middle of the night and he still wets his self, my 4 year old son never be any accidents and this is just so frustrating should I punish him because I don't feel like he even tries to avoid wetting his self
Sara-Louise·
I'm not sure any of us could really say what's best as I guess it's what you feel & how you want to go forward with things. He's clearly a lounge about bum who is happy to scrounge of the government & not lift a finger to work. But if you want to give it a bit more time so he can sort his affairs out I think that would be reasonable. But if he doesn't make an effort soon I'd definitely be getting more firm with him to make a contribution to his sons life.
TaraLou·
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Contact CSA. they will take it out his money... or he night even deny his the dad so he doesnt have to pay, at this point they will do a DNA for legal purposes.. and if he proves to be the dad they will backdate the money he was suppose to be paying... so he will get stung either way...
regarding cutting contact... he might just go with what you say or do as it may be easier for him, rather than give you money... if i was in ur shoes id still let him see baby as hes the most important here and he will miss out because if it does go the long way about it then it could take a while... and tell him to start giving you money or your going the legal way... then give him a week or by next time he sees baby to sort it. if not then continue to call CSA... xx
charmaine gordon·
I agree with @mother_of_humans and @taralou csa babes I feel like you should be getting money from him 100% I don't think stopping him seeing is a good idea unless he doesn't bother because it's good for both of them the last time my girls see there real dad they were 5months and 2yrs there now 8yrs and 10yrs they don't Evan no what he looks x
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id say speak to csa xx