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stephyb95
Stephanie·Мама сына (8 лет)
Need some advice ladies...my babies dad comes out to see him twice a week (my rule and he's happy with it too so no judgements please) but he just isn't giving me money for Alex...I've asked and asked and it's always either "I don't know when I get my money" or "they haven't given me my money, I've tried to find out why but I don't know" etc etc....he's getting money from the government because he doesn't have a job and even though he's told me he's looking I know for a fact that he isn't, he's happy sitting at home playing his x box and getting paid from the government. I've been told by a friend that I should cut contact if he isn't going to pay his share of Alex's expenses but my mum doesn't agree with that....I'm not sure what is best, on one hand I don't think my friends advice is good but then again why should he get all the perks and stuff of being a dad when he isn't even going to support his son? so my question is, what do you all think? do you have any advice?
16.01.2017

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id say speak to csa xx
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chamzy32
charmaine gordon·Многодетная мама (7 детей)
I agree with @mother_of_humans and @taralou csa babes I feel like you should be getting money from him 100% I don't think stopping him seeing is a good idea unless he doesn't bother because it's good for both of them the last time my girls see there real dad they were 5months and 2yrs there now 8yrs and 10yrs they don't Evan no what he looks x
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taralou
TaraLou·Мама троих детей
Contact CSA. they will take it out his money... or he night even deny his the dad so he doesnt have to pay, at this point they will do a DNA for legal purposes.. and if he proves to be the dad they will backdate the money he was suppose to be paying... so he will get stung either way...
regarding cutting contact... he might just go with what you say or do as it may be easier for him, rather than give you money... if i was in ur shoes id still let him see baby as hes the most important here and he will miss out because if it does go the long way about it then it could take a while... and tell him to start giving you money or your going the legal way... then give him a week or by next time he sees baby to sort it. if not then continue to call CSA... xx
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sara-lou86
Sara-Louise·Мама двоих (9 лет, 11 лет)
I'm not sure any of us could really say what's best as I guess it's what you feel & how you want to go forward with things. He's clearly a lounge about bum who is happy to scrounge of the government & not lift a finger to work. But if you want to give it a bit more time so he can sort his affairs out I think that would be reasonable. But if he doesn't make an effort soon I'd definitely be getting more firm with him to make a contribution to his sons life.
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