@itsnmysoul I think that's best cause you obviously still dont get it.

@renee556 I appreciate you.

@renee556 the point of this entire app Is for support. One I was not or have never been speaking to you like I told her when you post something it's open to interpretation. why post about your life if you don't want people's opinion. There is more to life than your small scope of knowledge . The entire point of this app is to get opinions and views from other moms.. If she did not want opinions or views she should have kept it to her self completely. If someone just agrees with you and does not have their own opinion they usually don't have your best interest at heart. like it told her I was not trying to be hurtful or malicious at all. but I am free to voice my thoughts and opinions. I think it's safe to say we can all leave it alone. yes?

@itsnmysoul. but hey everyone is entitled to an opinion i guess thats why they say opinions are like assholes everyone has one

@itsnmysoul and for u not to know her life you sure jump on her relationship like u did. Instead of trying to get more clarification of the situation u basically told her she didn't know her worth.. Sucks that u would take something that someone is feeling and turn it into yall was just sex buddies or he doesn't care. 😕

@renee556 bingo!

@itsnmysoul I don't think she was looking for someone to interpret what she was saying kinda think she's already done that but think she was more so looking for that comfort.

@itsnmysoul very true but staying on course of the original post is a great idea.

I don't know your life sweetie. but in general if you post something it's open to interpretation. it's ok not to agree. lol

@itsnmysoul I have the answers to your assumptions cause it doesn't apply..but ok carry on.

If you have all the answers you are not confused.

@twinmom1227 me and u both😂😂😩😩

@renee556 lmao yes! I got a "how's the babies" text and was like they're fine oh and I'm good too thanks for asking Lol. I guess I hate change

@itsnmysoul Youre reaching. You see how your comments sre going left but everyone is sticking to the post instead of digging up what they assume is happening. a kiss on the cheek means a man is drawing out? Lol. i would assume that would be no kiss at all. a kiss on the cheek is stil affection. So ignore how amazing a provider and dad he is and even though I'm whinning he's a damn good boyfriend, I ask and want for nothing...but because he hasn't kissed me in my mouth in a few days he's no longer committed? Buying a house and a ring is a huge commitment. would you buy a house with someone you wanted to withdraw from? cause with my name on the deed you better believe I'm not going anywhere. my post is saying i know what he wants i just want him to show it. I think you skipped over the fact that I said I, as in myself is the one that feels like I'm withdrawing, needing space. Hell maybe he senses that and is actually giving it to me..mixed signals means his actions don't line up with what he say. I'd rather for this man to show me he still sees me in his future as one than to not kiss me on my lips but on my cheeks for a few days

@twinmom1227. lol u good trust me im just as emotional if not worse if my SO does something different like doesn't say good morning when he first gets up im breaking down crying reevaluating the relationship lmao hormones. i totally get it.

@renee556 I agree. The apartment situation, yes its definitely too small for all of us. Me him our twins and his 2 sons that come on the weekends. We definitely agreed it was best for now also because I'm not on this lease and here you can't do that, they'll evict you. so me moving is best for now, but the house will bring us back in one household. Thats why I'm like if he didn't want "us" he would just be like yea move out Lol. I just hate that I'm so emotional and point out every little thing. like even now I'm starting to see how petty this is Lol

@mommy_of_04 true! The babies aren't his first born, however it's his first daughter in the mix, he's always wanted a daughter and almost gave up on having one. People close to him has said it was going to change him and I knew it was, I can see him wanting to do everything right. She's only 2 weeks but she know her daddy and seems to only want him, she grunts and whines until he gets home and once he gets her she's so content and peaceful. I never thought that could be it, he does give the babies way more attention which I do love and will not complain about. he's a great dad and his kids love him to pieces, he has 2 older boys 8, 13. They adore him. I guess we are the opposite of you two, I'm the "jealous one" and he's the one that just stepped right in and took over Lol especially on baby girl.

@twinmom1227. i think you and your SO will be fine. Wild guess but he probably agreed 2 u moving out because. the apt maybe 2 small for u him and the 2 new blessings. Which is why he said if he gets the house u don't have to go anywhere. One baby is hard but two girl i commend u and every other mom that has multiples. He is probably trying to adjust to becoming a father. Men are kind werid creatures lol when it comes to adjusting and probably doesn't even realize u feel this way. In his mind he is still being that Perfect Guy just talk to him mama.

@itsnmysoul I think you're misunderstanding what I'm saying. I was never his homie and I'm not his homie. You must build a friendship first in order to have a healthy relationship is what I'm saying. I'm saying that my relationship has never been unhealthy. I'm saying we've never had problems. I never said he doesn't love me and only me, that's been proven to me over and over again, hell the man is still making payments on a ring that he doesnt even know I know about. I also never said he's rethinking the whole situation, I'm simply saying I want more affection and if I tell him I'm sure I'll get it. I'm not defensive however I do believe you're searching beyond what I'm saying. idk if what you're saying is common for people you know or what you've seen, but I'm saying that's not the case over here Lol. If you marry someone that someone needs to be your best friend and we have that quality is what I meant by friends. My feelings/emotions towards my situation is not my actual situation. How we feel is not always how it is.. my point was the man obviously still wants this family and us to build together buy a house together etc. but my question is why is he not able to show it through affection. His actions as far as moving forward is great but Im saying its mixed signals as far as me not feeling the affection from him as strong as before and what I mean by affection is kisses and cuddles. I'm not blind to the fact that 2 newborns in our bed is the reason for that. The man has spoiled me so much that an ounce of less affection is noticeable to me. He's not out roaming the streets, he denies outtings with his "homies" to stay home with his woman, now that the kids are here he's definitely home. Homies Lol no, a foundation built the right way yes. that even IF we weren't to make it we could still be civilized.

Are the babies his first borns? I know when I had my husband and I first born my husband kind of did the same. He wasn't sure how to react I guess you can say. He was going through his own emotions with just watching me give birth to bringing our son home and trying to learn everything. He didn't understand how I just went right into motherhood if this was my first one. Than he got kind of jealous because I was always taking care of our son and giving him all the attention and my husband wasn't use to that lol he was use to me giving him all the attention. So maybe you should sit with him and talk and let him understand that you are here for him to but the key thing is communication. See what's going on in his mind and try to make it all about him. I know it can be hard because your feelings are confused too but just say your confused and you would like to know how he is doing with everything and is there anything you can help him with. Sorry I'm rambling but I hope this helps and makes sense, good luck

The lack of affection is his non committment. He is drawing out his boundaries.

I'm not being critical. . I'm just asking a question@twinmom1227 why would you want to start a family with someone who doesn't not love you and only you? There is a big difference between a committed man that loves you and his kids and a comfortable man.. that knocked up his homie and is rethinking this whole decision. like I said I'm not critical and I really hope you don't get defensive because that's not what I want. Just consider there is lots of emotional freedom in a relationship where the Love. not LIKE LOVE is being reciprocated

@itsnmysoul our relationship was never based on sex. We've always been close, going out, vacations etc. We've had a best friend type relationship, we rarely even argue. Our relationship wasn't in trouble when we talked about ttc, it was his idea to go ahead and start a family now, and through out my whole pregnancy we still remained close, even went to the mountains and had a blast. Even now we still joke and we play, I would still consider us close but more on friends than lovers due to what I feel is lack of affection. I'm not mad at him for him asking me to please him, majority of the time he doesn't have to ask we just do that for each other, I'd rather him ask me than to go seek somewhere else though. So sex is not the issue or the base, it's our icing on the cake and always has been.

@raquely I do want to talk to him about it but I just don't know how yet. I want to be able to do it without crying cause once I get emotional my words get scrambled Lol..It doesn't hurt me too bad at this point cause I've already prepared myself, and what's crazy is I'm actually accepting of it and content with it. I think part of me moving is because I know I need space..but what's helping me is his lack of affection. It wouldnt be as easy if I felt loved.

men are not like women. He might think you are fragile. A ENTIRE human just came out of your body . babies don't ever make relationships better. They often make them worse and bring to light people's true Intention. don't fuss at him though. talk to him. Also be real with yourself though. If there was only sex before... and nothing else you should not expect anything else. I feel like this is brutally honest but true