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I usually dont post my problems but im in a really bad place. Ive been so depreased lately i cant get out of bed. Ever since my family became homeless, my husband and i have lived separately. I live with my mom and he lives with his parents about a hour and a half away from us. Hes been so extremely unreliable. He doesnt help pay for food or anything. He doesnt even know how to take care of our son if i leave them alone together. When he comes to visit he just starts demanding sex, and when he touches me i feel disgusted. He does nothing else for us. says he loves us but doesnt help. i have to beg for money. yes actually beg on the streets and go door to door for money when he makes 1500 a month. but according to him we never have money for anything. i barely eat because im saving food for my son. i get maybe a meal and a half a day not counting the scraps i eat when my son is done eating. today im furious. i managed to collect about 1200 for the baby thats coming so i can buy stuff for him and he totally goes and tells me i cant buy anything because bills have to be paid. he took all the money! i have about maybe 300 dollars left 😢 i just cant anymore. i feel unloved and neglected. i gave up everything for him and defended him for 3 years and i just cant take it anymore. if it wasnt for my mom id be living in the streets but she has her own financial problems so i cant depend on her to help me much. i just dont know what to do. ive been crying all day
12.01.2017
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ginac
ginac
@rosiel49 I live in ny and get cash food and rent and insurance that we are not married. even when I was living with my dad I got all that u definitely need to go reapply to get the help. if you need help filling out the forms I can help. good luck. hang in there
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@jcbaby i know 😢 its hard to hear but i know its the truth.ive just been denying it for so long
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princesslina
princesslina
You're welcome good luck mama
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jcandbabye
jcandbabye
he doesnt care about you hun. Hes using you for sex and the money that you do get. As soon as he found out you had that money he probably spent his on things that he wanted. He knows what hes doing and probably is just aiming to make you feel bad for it because he doesnt want to feel guilty. leave his ass in the dust. He doesnt deserve you.
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@princesslina i will. im gonna pull on my big girl panties and get this done. i cant deal with it anymore. its been too much. ill for sure keep everyone uodated. thank you so much
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rosiel49
rosiel49
yeah i know. thanks for talking with me and being so supportive @akirasisk11
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princesslina
princesslina
I'm sorry you're going through this but to be homeless and deal with this crap? Nope. Not today. We won't stand for it as you can see. Do what you gotta do and please keep us updated so we can help.
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akirasisk11
akirasisk11
Life just hard..i understand how u feel. i lived with my husband's family for a while cause we were homeless too and they are toxic too...my own family can be pretty toxic.
im stuck living with my dad which has its ups and downs.
but we are working on finding our own place.
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princesslina
princesslina
This sounds toxic. I'm with everyone else. Leave!
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@akirasisk11 @morganmommy79 i think ill do that as soon as possible. we really need the help. id like actual food for once. and i agree...hes toxic and i need to get away. just sad. never thought id be in this place ever.
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morganmommy79
morganmommy79
Separate on paper legally and file for everything. If you divorce, file for child support. Is there anything you can do on the side, maybe babysit? I know it's so hard and very complicated. I feel for you 😔
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akirasisk11
akirasisk11
Everyone is scared of being alone..but sometimes its just the best opinion.
i agree with the rest of these ladies about the welfare thing..take him off your case u should be able to get help after that.
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rosiel49
rosiel49
thanks @lissethh and youre right @akirasisk11 i guess id always been afraid of being alone before but at this point i really rather be alone and better my life with my sons
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akirasisk11
akirasisk11
I know it's hard letting somebody u love go but if they are toxic towards your way of life..then let them go.
if u love him,let him go.
cause to me..it sounds like he doesn't give a shit about u guys...
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lissethh
lissethh
@rosiel49 then go in and take him off your case tell them your really in need i hope you get the help hun😞🙏
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@sarahbellee yea i think so. if that works then ill for sure do it asap. i really need the help
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neikadre
neikadre
this breaks my heart... go in and try again
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@akirasisk11 i think sadly youre right. it sucks cuz i really do love him....the old him. but i cant live like this anymore. im about to have two kids. i need the help and a better life
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sarahbelle
sarahbelle
Go back in and apply just by yourself. let them know you're separated and only on one income. my sister did that
with her son when her and her husband were separated and she got approved. They should definitely approve you. Does your state do cash aid?
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akirasisk11
akirasisk11
Im sorry.
maybe it's time to let him go and move on..better ur life (:
be strong.
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@lissethh i suppose i can go in and try again. we were denied three times already but now that we're seperated maybe thatll help
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rosiel49
rosiel49
@akirasisk11 we live in nyc. ive tried public assistance and we were denied because they said he made too much. i can try a shelter but here in nyc the rule is you have to be in a shelter for at least a year before they can help place you. bring a new born home to a shelter just...doesnt sit well with me. at least we have wic but that doesnt last very long. i have my mom whome im staying by right now but most connections i severed defending this fucktard for the last 3 years. i lost everyone because of him
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lissethh
lissethh
can you get emergency foodstamps? or cash aid?? if you have a welfare worker you can go in and talk to her they can really help you .:) or you can tell them you need a worker:)
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akirasisk11
akirasisk11
Have u tried welfare.? maybe a woman's shelter.? idk where u living at but there is a lot of places that usually helps woman and children...
maybe any family or close friends...
i know it's hard but stay strong..btw your partner sounds really toxic towards u and your son.
praying u find some type of help.
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