@concrete, but his excuse is I'm a mom. It's what I'm suppose to be doing. The house should be clean. I shouldn't complain. And I get that. But when I have a basket of clean laundry and he just dumps it all on the floor cause he can't find a pair of pants. Really upsets me.
OMG! You could be working out of the house. he has to help. you are doing many jobs - caretaker, cook, laundry service, cleaning service... let him hire someone to do that. responsibilities must be split
I went through this a few months back , what worked for me was learning to appreciate myself and all that I accomplish.its hard caring for everyone else's needs and not getting any praise. But knowing your worth will help and go a long way. I take care of my husband and 5 kids needs. He works everyday and won't touch a single thing when he gets home. And these kids are just a disaster.i clean way more than I should and I'm always cooking. I was feeling so unappreciated and taken advantage of. Everyone expects me to do everything. Until I realized, how much my role in the house really meant.without me, no food would be cooked, no laundry would be done.the. Kids would fall apart...it can be hard being a care giver. But know your worth, don't pay attention to when he is acting foolish. Once he sees how it doesn't faze you, you'll start getting a different reaction from him.
@mommytotravis0427, I totally understand your frustration and feeling unappreciated. if you work and contribute, all house work and baby work should be split 50/50, or at least close to that. If your SO does not contribute at all, it's frustrating. I agree with @farrahp08 that you should appreciate yourself. create some check list where you can mark all you do. you will feel accomplished. and maybe your so will notice too
IS·
Мама двоих (младенец)
tell him. they do not realize we need praise. @mommytotravis0427
Samantha·
Мама сына-младенца
@concrete, but his excuse is I'm a mom. It's what I'm suppose to be doing. The house should be clean. I shouldn't complain. And I get that. But when I have a basket of clean laundry and he just dumps it all on the floor cause he can't find a pair of pants. Really upsets me.
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No its not what your "supposed" to be doing. It's by choice. Your job is just as hard as anyone else's.
IS·
Мама двоих (младенец)
OMG! You could be working out of the house. he has to help. you are doing many jobs - caretaker, cook, laundry service, cleaning service... let him hire someone to do that. responsibilities must be split
IS·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@mommytotravis0427
Samantha·
Мама сына-младенца
@concrete, yea. I work a full time job mon-fri. Don't get home till about 530pm
Farrah ·
Мама двоих (3 года, 8 лет)
I went through this a few months back , what worked for me was learning to appreciate myself and all that I accomplish.its hard caring for everyone else's needs and not getting any praise. But knowing your worth will help and go a long way. I take care of my husband and 5 kids needs. He works everyday and won't touch a single thing when he gets home. And these kids are just a disaster.i clean way more than I should and I'm always cooking. I was feeling so unappreciated and taken advantage of. Everyone expects me to do everything. Until I realized, how much my role in the house really meant.without me, no food would be cooked, no laundry would be done.the. Kids would fall apart...it can be hard being a care giver. But know your worth, don't pay attention to when he is acting foolish. Once he sees how it doesn't faze you, you'll start getting a different reaction from him.
Farrah ·
Мама двоих (3 года, 8 лет)
Of course I now have everyone help out more in the house as well.
IS·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@mommytotravis0427, I totally understand your frustration and feeling unappreciated. if you work and contribute, all house work and baby work should be split 50/50, or at least close to that. If your SO does not contribute at all, it's frustrating. I agree with @farrahp08 that you should appreciate yourself. create some check list where you can mark all you do. you will feel accomplished. and maybe your so will notice too