One thing I cannot STAND is the fact that one day my child's father is praising me as a parent knowing I'm always so hard on myself; then as soon as his mother is with the baby for even the smallest amount of time and makes one comment about something (like apparently she commented on the rash she tends to get under her neck), he berates and downplays my parenting when he spends 95% of his time out with his boys or at his mother's house while I'm with our child 24/7, and even when he's with her I still do all the work and it's not by choice; I get that I'll never be a perfect parent but I'm here with her day in and day out doing my fucking best and giving my all to take care of her and do right by her; I take care of the rash on her neck constantly, it comes and goes, and it's not a result of not bathing her the way he keeps claiming and letting his mother tell him; not only that; I'll ask HIM to babysit her, just for him to pass her off to his mother and let her do whatever and make all kinds of decisions she has no business making and changing the things I do for my child when she's in "his" care. I'm getting so tired of holding my tongue with him for the sake of keeping our little co-parenting union and our friendship from falling apart but I can't keep taking their shit
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@beebaby, yeah, both his mother and my mother are nurses but he always throws the fact that my mother is older (58 turning 59) and only had one child (she had 3 miscarriages and a stillborn which he knows while he's rudely saying she only had one child) and his mother had 4 and is younger (just turned 43) in my face like that means that his advice is gold and mine is outdated and bogus, I've been taking care of babies longer than him because I grew up babysitting babies from our daughter's age and up from the time I was 10 up to now, he's never actually taken care of a baby but feels entitled to his opinions because he's the oldest of his siblings so he counts that as having experience with kids although he never helped his parents take care of them, he just gets these moments where he gets so childish and disgustingly ignorant and just expects me to take it but as soon as I dish it back out to him and tell him about his mother crossing boundaries then I'm acting crazy and being stupid and ignorant in his eyes
@beebaby, I have multiple times but to him everything is my fault and "because I'm the mother I should know these things and not let them happen" , I treat it every time I see it, he never checks it and waits for his mom to say something to him then he comes at me all types of ways. It's one of those little rashes some babies get between their chin and neck; I'm always cleaning it and patting it dry and putting a little ointment on it but because he doesn't see it he thinks I'm not doing it, I've pointed it out before and told him what I do for it and asked him what he thought, but unless his mother points it out and makes it out to be bigger than it actually is, he doesn't care smh; he's been the type of parent that as long as he's buying her formula or diapers or wipes when asked (but on his own terms) and sees her for a few minutes when he's here then he's father of the year and everything else is 2000% my responsibility
@beebaby, and I know what you mean about running to his mom and ignoring something you say when you're right, I told him I thought she was already teething and my mother and aunt (also a nurse lol all the women in my family are in the nursing field) looked and attested to it, he ran to his mother and asked her and she had the nerve to say "oh she's got a long way to go before that happens" meanwhile the poor girl is so fussy because she has a tooth that's already breaking though; like you can literally see the little white bud, when I showed him her mouth he went out and got her teething rings the next day on his own, I didn't even have to ask him to and never told him to, i bought her one for Christmas and was gonna buy her a few more this weekend before I knew he was going to do that