Opinion/Advice (this may be long) so I've been with my fiancé for a year and some months now and my son was born in august and I've only had 1 rule u can't talk to ur exs and this one girl and he didn't fight about it he said ok then I come to figure out when I had my son he went out to lunch with his friend while I was recovering and 1 of those girls went come to find out he's been talking to her since January and lying about it and then I figure out he changed her name in his contact to a guys and then figure out he was talking to his old ex of 2 years and lying everytime I asked him (he says they were all talking as just friends but he lied everyone I asked about who he's texting he would call her late at night etc. (this is something different ) I don't like alcohol at all and my fiancé promised he never would drink then one night he was mad at me and texted his friend let's go get beers he had a few and lied to me about it , (this is the last thing) he got mad at me one day and his friends were going on a trip his friends asked were do u wanna go and he said anywhere were I can get drunk and smash a hot chick ....idk if I'm being stupid or....idk I need advise what to do
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honest answer... I'd leave him. If he's so up and ready to "smash a hot chick" he doesn't have respect for you, and why would you want to be with someone who had no respect for you? Think about it this way, if you did the same I'm sure he would leave. girls always make excuses and say "well guys will be guys" but I can 100% say that's not true. Real men need only their partner and nobody else. my partner would agree with that.
@moniquebatista I know it's hard but you should leave him... If he's gonna continue to do it, don't put up with it. You deserve more.
I agree with @mommy_faith. I was that way with alcohol when we first got together and it did nothing but make me annoying and possessive and always uptight. I realized it was unfair, and that if he wanted to grab drinks he should be able to. However he doesn't get drunk, and rarely ever gets even tipsy (maybe once a year, at family party) so I think you should open your mind about the alcohol as long as he's responsible. As for the lying... Hell no. I would raise hell lol. Trust and honesty is so so SO important to me. The way I see it (and my husband also) is that if either one of us needs to hide something, it's really bad and there will be consequences. Even my husband says, there's absolutely no reason why an ex should be in your life, and there's absolutely no reason to hang out with the opposite sex. I just think it's shady.
I agree with @mommy_faith That shit tears my nerves apart. I don't put up with that. My hubby knows I don't put up with it too. 👌 So don't put up with it, because he's only gonna end up ripping your heart to shreds
So I am going to be honest. I think expecting him not to drink at all is unfair and unrealistic. I don't care for drinking but even I need a shot every once and a while and deserve to have one. But you are definitely not being stupid about all the other stuff. If there is no trust, then you have nothing. He lied multiple times and is still lying, which tells me that he will always lie. I don't put up with that shit. I am really sorry you are going through this.
I'm in agree with@sarahbellee he's not worth it hon and I also agree with @mommy_faith . would you want your child seeing and hearing this and thinking it's okay? then he grows up thinking it's okay to treat women like that and he does that to some girl?