@littleelf85 I suppose that makes sense! well done from refraining in that case!

@littleelf85 I don't know how you did punch her there an then! I know I would have done! 😂

@littleelf85 oh don't tempt me, I'm already close to wanting to do so! xx

@littleelf85 apparently because she did know hope and i existed it's a shock to her which is why she is ready but I have told rob if the kid is his, hope will not be meeting him unless I am then because tbh, I'd rather she didn't meet her at all even though I know she will eventually. I examined to him too, that I'm not happy with this day in day out texting because it's just the same as me texting an ex, I mean fucking hell I lost friends because I stopped talking to them when I got with Rob because they were male. I said to him he'd be jealous and worried too, he kinda gets it but because it's not him in this situation he doesn't properly. he just keeps telling me I have nothing to worry about, but if she thinks she can get her claws in, she has another thing coming. urgh, I am so sick of this already!!

@littleelf85 he won't though because he too nice. he's scares if he starts messing her about, he will lose out on the child again.

@littleelf85 well I've just found out she texting him again today so that's always great. I've just said to rob, I'm not a fan of this texting everyday thing, yes talk about the child but don't talk about TV shows and shit like she is with him! other than the kid, they don't need other involvements. apparently she isn't ready to meet me yet, but she has to get over it, just like I do. it's going to happen eventually.
good luck with the pond!

@littleelf85 it wasn't the greatest year for me either.. but hey ho, we've got all of this year to fuck up now too. ;) it sounds like you are best rid of him to be honest!
still constantly thinking of this whole situation, but doing a lot better, just hoping the results come back soon! xx

wtf?! as if he would do that! I'm really sorry to hear that!and no one told you for the years?!
Everything happens for a reason, obviously it was you time you bring another little one into the world, with or without his father. @littleelf85

@littleelf85

ahh okay. 9 years down the drain just to get a bit from else where?! 😑 it's good that he's started to buck his ideas up though!
I fell pregnant really quickly too, it such a shock to the system isn't it! but a good shock! bloody men, why do they just think with their dicks half the time?
sometimes men just aren't cut out to be dad's and the kids are better off, especially if they have an amazing mum! xx

@littleelf85 I'm not surprised, he sounds very selfish if I'm honest! I've seen most of your status' about him and it doesn't seem fair what he's doing to the little ones! maybe they are better off without him! is he lennys dad too? if so it's a shame he might not meet his dad but still. xx

@littleelf85 he has no reason to hate you as long as you've done everything for your kids (which I'm sure you have) he should be bloody greatful! good on you for refusing the sexual advances! you're not a toy for him to pick back up at whenever he feels like it! xx

@taralou thank you, I hope so! and I will do. :) thank you for your advice tonight. :) xx

aww hun i been reading the posts... you will get thru it either way... honestly.. im here if u want to talk... and please keep us updated with whats going on... xxx

@littleelf85 he has already said he hates her with a passion, I just can't understand how he can hate her when she is the possible mother of his child. like surely there must be something there. thank you so much! xx

@littleelf85 thank you, means a lot! if someone where in this situation, I'm sure they too would feel like their whole family is about to be ripped apart! I will stand by him if the child is his and I will not let her try to come in out of nowhere and take over! she can go fuck herself if she thinks that is happening. Rob is my fella not hers! she lost that right when she did one! xx

@littleelf85 I'm trying so hard to be, but I have cried every day for the last three days. not so tough anymore. xx

@littleelf85 exactly! his mum has been telling me just how fucking amazing she is, but I seriously don't care, like I'm only there for the kid. I said to my OH I refuse to meet her until the dna test comes back, because if he isn't his, I don't have to meet her, but if he is I will eventually, I felt like a shit girlfriend, but I just knew I wasn't ready to meet her and if she had of said any of that shit infront of me,I would have gone crazy! xx

@sara-lou I know if the kid is his, he want to be involved which I fully support and told him that ages ago when he first told me about the possibility of having another kid (he told me when we first met) but it's just so hard to come to terms with. My partner will have another kid and my daughter a brother.. that isn't from me. like we were just settling down after having Hope and now everything is crashing down around me. I feel so threatened by her even though I shouldn't. :/ xx

@littleelf85 I know it doesn't, he's already said that, it's just me being stupid. this is just a horrible situation. my OH'S ex then had the cheek to ask what my OH had done for the kid since he was born.. urm.. up until 2 days ago love he didn't even know when the kid was born because you fucked off and wouldn't let him have anything to do with the kid!

Oh gosh that is a lot to be dealing with right now. Just had your own lo your getting used to & wanting to enjoy, then in steps & ex with a bomb shell. I'd probably be wishing it wasn't true but I guess be prepared for the fact he may be. I know it's easier said than done by for now try not to over think it. I'd wait until I knew what was what then have a sit down & talk about what this means, what she wants & what you oh wants I guess. Sorry your having to go through this... Chin up.

@taralou I have voiced my concerns but my OH doesn't think I should be worried as he doesn't want to be with her,he wants to be with me, but I feel like my whole family is threatened by her existence. oh he dotes on our little girl, but I just wish I could have been the one to give him a boy too. @littleelf85 the reason is everyone thought she cheated on him and that's why she fucked off, but seeing pictures of her little one, he is the spit of my daughter, so i really think the kid is my OH'S. xx

I understand that you feel that way... and the best thing to do is both of you voice your concerns to eachother... as you both are a family now.... its hard not to think about it but just wait for the results and then you will know for sure. Also we cant decide if we have a boy or girl but im sure your OH loves your lil girl xxx

he's already doing a dna, just waiting for the results back, but I can't think of anything else, the amount of times I've had to go sit in the toilet because I'm crying my eyes out and I don't want to concern my OH because God knows what he's going through right now. apparently she didn't know we had a baby up until the other day. the baby is four months old, she left my OH pretty much as soon as she found out. I fell pregnant really early on in our relationship hence why there isn't much between the bairns. (our little girl is one month old). the other thing is I can't help but be jealous because I know my OH always wanted a boy and she gave him one first. this is just so messed up! 😑 @taralou xx

First things first just look after your daughter and concentrate on her. Then you get your OH to do a DNA and go from there. Thats what i would do in your shoes... totally undestand you want and not wanting it to be true.. maybe she just doing it to stir as she knows you just had a baby.. how old is the baby? xx

@taralou

I've been better. My OH's ex turned up the other day with my OH's possible son... seriously not had one break through 2016, just been one thing after a-fucking-nother. the only good bit was having my daughter. like I kinda want this kid to be my OH's son, but at the same time, I don't want him to have anything to do with his ex which I know is impossible is the kid is his. :/ just another bit of shit to deal with. I can't help but over think it all! xx

whats up hun? you ok xx