Is it normal to develop feelings for your baby's father while pregnant? Me and the father aren't together.

yeah I think that's what it is. he told me he is nervous and anxious and he thinks about how the baby will change his life @odalys

then idk what his problem is lol maybe hes just scared cause its his 1st baby and he wasnt really ready

@odalys I even have the paperwork lmao....if he didn't believe me he wouldn't be like how he is

true! oh and no he saw the ultrasounds hahaha

yea idk either. but hopefully ya can work something out for the child

I'm not sure I can only hope he turns around. ughhhhh

@odalys yeah like he knows the baby is his. he didn't deny it at all. I just wonder why he said he wants to support financially and emotionally but act cold at the same time.

do you have an ultrasound yet? maybe he thinks you're lying

my bd slept with someone 4years ago one night thing, she didnt tell him anything til the boy was 3, she actually did it all through court turns out kid was his, he was so mad, now he doesnt want anything to do with either of them i think it has to do with him never having feelings with her and her taking so long to let it be known, as for him and I we've been together almost 3years on our 2nd when i found out i was preg. with our 1st we werent really talking we had broken up and i texted him. he didnt believe it was his cause we broke up after a while i got.him to move in with me and when our daughter came she looked all like him. he loves her to death!!! it's just different cause he doesnt deny our kid like he denies his with the other girl. but your situation is diff cause you're letting him know ahead which is good

@odalys we both looking for a relationship... it's all just weird... complicated as well. we decide to be friends then b like a month later I find out I'm pregnant....

@asiamarie, maybe his roommate doesn't like you for some reason and that's why he says you can't come over? If you do what you said you were going to do that might make things a lot worse for you! If he finds out that you're actually lying and didn't really get kicked out. Maybe just try sitting down and having a serious conversation and let it allllll out

I hope something good works out for the both of you tho

maybe he just wanted something fun, nothing big, then he probably found out you were preg. so now hes probably freaking out cause he doesnt know what to do and cause of the age difference... idk

I know it's very odd sounding.Like I'm carrying your child

@odalys we were dating kinda and no he doesn't I know that for a fact this is his first and he lives with a roommate

@mandaaleexo I have to do something

sounds very fishy, were you guys in an actual relationship before u found out u were preg? does he have other kids?

@asiamarie, be careful with that very possible that will backfire on you!

@mandaaleexo like I'm irritated. I'm thinking of feigning a fake fight between my uncle and claiming he kicked me out and I have nowhere to go, maybe next weekend

Yeah even though I've been there when we had a fling.... it's so weird...

@asiamarie, that's super weird!! Why wouldn't he want his future baby mother at his house 🤔very strange!!

hahaha! the idea of him with someone annoys me 😂😂 @mandaaleexo like he repeats that this won't turn into a relationship, I'm not allowed over to his place like at all...for no reason whatsoever 😫 it's odd that he repeats us not having a relationship like he is trying to convince himself

@asiamarie, ooh ok I misunderstood sorry lol. It's most likely your hormones! Your lucky you have a sex drive!! I've completely lost my sex drive! Once in a blue moon I get in the mood but still won't have sex cause I have no one! I can be by this baby's father while in the mood and then will think about it and go dry like a desert lol I am so turned off by him!!

@mandaaleexo Thanks for the advice! It's a tough one

oh no I told him I don't want a relationship, it's just over the course of these few weeks I've developed feelings and I only stated when I found out that sex would benefit us both 😂

@asiamarie, well good luck with this!! Just remember not to be pushy with being a couple! With most guys it'll push them away even more! You're so lucky that he is supporting you! If you're sure you're going to get kicked out of your house and be homeless I would suggest applying for welfare and shelter! The list for shelter is almost always super long but being that you're pregnant you'll move up the list and be first priority.

@mandaaleexo I mean no he is totally single...we aren't together so I can't get mad but his work schedule he literally sleeps for like 7-8 a day and goes to work. No time for anyone else and this is just so fresh learning about the pregnancy I doubt he could even find a respectable girl to even consider getting involved with him. We come from families with money and my family would kick me out. I'm 20, he is 27, I'm adopted...and in school. No there is a lot to the situation. I don't want home with anyone else.

Do you think he's being like that cause he's with someone else?

Like when my family finds out they are gonna kick me out and he was like you can't stay with me blah blah blah...like I don't think that's fair at all.

@odalys he is like you were cute and we had fun....he says we're separate but when he saw the ultrasound he seemed quite happy about it..having a baby I guess. it's just weird basically...

See no like he is just like we were friends because. we couldn't work out and just because we're having a baby doesn't mean it should change and blah blah blah. like he is just against it totally. mucus isn't why at all.

it can also br your hormones lol i was sexually frustrated now i am even more cause hes in prison

tbh i got cheated on whike i was pregnant that probably couldve been the reason why my bf was also against being sexual, he didnt physically cheat but socially, fb sc... but that can be one reason, but he did tell me that he didnt like the fact that I was mucusy down there, that might be a reason some guys dont like to do anything when their girl is preg

he is just against us even being sexual during my pregnancy...it's kinda odd like he always states when we meet and talk that "we won't be in a relationship" and blah blah blah

@odalys see we kinda had a thing going and broke it off decided to be friends and then I found out...now he is totally against having a relationship and is trying to keep his distance except we're not arguing as much and we're making jokes but it's like I want him more than ever now.

ohhhh i see, well im still with the father of my kids, and I wanted more attention from him and was like even more inlove with him

@odalys like to start wanting him? enjoying being around him? me and the father aren't together I'm sorry

what do you mean??