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Question.. so my boyfriend, also the father of my child plan on moving out in February we've been together a little over…

Question.. so my boyfriend, also the father of my child plan on moving out in February we've been together a little over a year we are both 23 and we signed the papers for our apartment. Butttt problem is his grandmother is a minister and she thinks we should wait until marriage I told him if he chooses to stay home we are don't cause clearly he's not a man and if we are co-parenting from different homes I rather not be with him.. and his only doing it to please his grandma.. am I wrong ???

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makenziealysemommy

makenziealysemommyВ ожидании первенца

@dionnetrashawn99, thank you so much she better get her some business

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dionnetrashawn99

Trashawn DionneМама четверых детей

And like you said there's way other sins you could be committing you not stealing or killing anyone so what's the harm

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dionnetrashawn99

Trashawn DionneМама четверых детей

I see where you coming from you not SUPPOSE TO HAVE SEX BEFORE YOU MARRIED AND THATS ALREADY BEEN DONE ✅ So his GRANDMA 👵 will be ok! Marriage is not the answer especially because it's the only way his grandmother will approve he's a grown man she will be ok

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dionnetrashawn99

Trashawn DionneМама четверых детей

@annekam1022, well said that's how I feel

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dionnetrashawn99

Trashawn DionneМама четверых детей

You shouldn't have to be rushed to get married just so you two can stay together!! Aren't you pregnant already right so it's already been done! Everybody sins

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mskandice

Kandice StedmanМама двоих (младенец)

Just get married...if yall love each other and plan to anyway one day. U could just move it up and be an official family. That way nobody could say jack....personally I wouldn't want either one of my kids having babies and living with the opposite sex if they werent married either.

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makenziealysemommy

makenziealysemommyВ ожидании первенца

I don't feel like it's selfish at all we are grown there's. I greater sin we already having a child. Everyone else in his family is ok with it besides his grandmother and he's afraid to go against her. He's about to be 24 he's a grown man with his own family and should be able to make his own decisions @nwhite0823

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nwhite0823

Nakeia WhiteМногодетная мама (5 детей), беременна

I mean you should respect that. I was raised the same way my husband and I moved in together a month before our wedding but did not share a room. Only bc we agreeed to keep my home and sell his.I think you should,understand that if you have a good man that respects his family and has morals don't messed that up being selfish.

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annekam1022

MakennaВ ожидании первенца

@makenziealysemommy,

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annekam1022

MakennaВ ожидании первенца

My family is really religious and when they found out we were moving in together all hell broke loss they were saying my parents didn't raise me right I should never be living with a man unless I'm married and then I got pregnant you can only image what that did. I was scared to death to go to thanksgiving with everybody. But eventually they get over it. But I can't say anything about sinning because I'm doing the same thing you can't make everyone happy you do you and you be happy don't make everyone else because you'll never make them happy! Good luck!!💕

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annekam1022

MakennaВ ожидании первенца

Me and my boyfriend moved into together I was 17 and he was 18! We weren't married and we're still not married and we're having a kid together. And we still live together. Honestly it's kinda to late y'all are having a kid if he didn't wanna move in together then he should have been having sex. I'm seriously not trying to be I just didn't know how to say that lol. Your already sinning if your having sex and not married what's the big deal about moving in. Like I understand wanting to have respect for his grandmother but isn't it already to late? Your definitely not wrong in doing that I would too!

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ecahanes

EmilyМама сына (1 год), беременна (10 нед.)

It's not a bad thing he loves his family and wants their respect give him more time and try to understand his side

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ecahanes

EmilyМама сына (1 год), беременна (10 нед.)

Personally I don't think you should be done with him because of that if he still wants to be with you than I think you should make it work. I bet once the baby comes he will want to be around all the time and move in with you

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makenziealysemommy

makenziealysemommyВ ожидании первенца

Because I don't want to just because we have a child of just because it's the right thing to do or because of what his grandmother thinks.. I want it to because the time is right and we are both ready @naylaa,

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naylaa

naylaaМама сына (1 год), беременна (30 нед.)

Why don't you just get married or engaged before hand

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