So I'm trying to figure out if I should let Siah go over to his dad's for a little bit on Christmas.…

I don't let my kids go anywhere where I don't trust the people he is going to whether they are family or not. If you don't like me and disrespect me then you don't get a relationship with my child period.

Exactly what she said.👆🏽 especially if she's threatening custody she'd be lucky to get a picture of my child after that. Your not wrong for feeling this.

no your not wrong for feeling that way. @beezy_mcflyy

@beebaby, I basically feel the same way that you do! That's why my child hasn't been around his family very often. I'm not trying to keep my son from his father on Christmas but I know since he lives in his parents house my child will be around them. My child's father will stick up for his family by saying "my momma was there in the delivery room, she was like a mother to you" etc. I'm sorry but as a mother myself I know when to draw the line and have some self control....what she did was foul! And his father called me to check me about disrespecting his wife because I sent her laughing emojis when she threatened my job and custody of my son (😂😂😂 is what I sent her). I really don't want my child around them but since it's Christmas I didn't wanna be a bitch to his father because he deserves to be around him on Christmas but as far as his family goes I'm not too keen on them being around my son

@mrscruz Her exact words were "Chris WILL be getting full custody" I wanted to text her back "HA BITCH PLEASE!!" But I was nice about it and just laughed 😂😂😂. He takes up for her saying "oh my mom was hurt and lashed out" but she's a grown ass woman...and she could've handled the situation waaay better

And he can be around your child on your terms since his parents are disrespectful. They don't have to like you but they will respect period. He can come see his child if he wants too on Christmas but I don't send my child around anyone who supposedly checked and threatened me. I don't give a shit. He doesn't need to go with him to see his child. The world is huge, it's not consistent of his mommas house

@beebaby, AMEN!! Girl you just opened my eyes to the situation!!

I know that may put a lot on you as a single parent but can we say hell no. Your not about to dog me in front of my child. not gonna happen.

@beebaby, I'm gonna have to talk to him about it and he's gonna be beyond pissed because he'll say "You know how my mom feels about babies and the fact that she can't see her grandson is killing her" but she kisses his first baby momma's ass to see his first son and that girl was a straight up BITCH to her! They talk everyday now! So if she can apologize to her for the sake of her first grandson then I see no problem in her doing the same to me!

Exactly and I would wait for her to come to me to talk. Until things are decent between us you will not have a relationship with my child.

@beebaby, girl if I could give you a high five right now I would! ✋🏽

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@beezy_mcflyy. I see where both u and @beebaby are coming from. when me nd my daughter's dad fell out his mom said some pretty hurtful things as well as doing some hurtfuk shit to me. for the first two years i refused to let it go i felt like u can see ur daughter on my terms only. But sometimes as parents especially if u want your children to have that relationship with the father and his family u gotta be the BIGGER person. And trust me that shit aint easy by far. But everytime i tried to talk to bd he would of course stand up for his mother. So i finally called and let her know politely but direct that it was her that was causing this separation and just like she demanded respect so did I that although she may have been hurt by my decision to leave her son but that she had no right to lash out and act childish. At the end she aplogized and although my daughter wasn't doing spend the nights that night it was a step in the right direction. now i can say she spends every summer with them and the respect is awesome

Oh I believe that the baby should have a relationship with grandparents because it's important but one thing I don't do is kiss ass while your stabbing me in the back. If I can't trust you then you don't get my children, I don't care about the relationship that is suffering. As adults it's not there business the reasons between the break up or reason for seperation. You need to only be concerned about the children @renee556

@beebaby, I'm just wondering how I should bring it up to him because with him his family is a touchy subject but I feel some type of way about what his mom did and I'm not gonna let it slide and give her complete access to my child because she's his grandmother and she was in the delivery room with me!

@beebaby Oh no i agree with u ass kisser im not, but what I will do is politely and directly tell u how I will not be treated nor how you will handle me. Anybody else I may have just blocked and deleted and out of sight outta mind but with my daughter's grandmother I felt like no let me address it and hopefully she'll realize she was outta line hurt or not and needed to come correct but if not then hey at least I tried and let it be known what I won't. tolerate and the reason why my child wasn't around

My mother in law was supposed to watch our oldest son while we had our second son. We had planned it for months. She came to the hosptial and was supposed to pick up my oldest because I was in labor, she came in the room and sat down like she was gonna stay. When they were getting ready to move me to another room my husband handed her my son's bag and said I'll call you when he gets here. She for.some retarded as reason thought she was gonna be in the room when I had the baby too. Talking about let one of the nurses take CJ. Um Wtf, they don't do that. smh. So she got mad and left my son right there so while I'm in labor me and my husband are calling everyone we know to see who can get my son, my.neighbir thank God came and got him and my sister drove 4 hours from Ohio to Michigan in order to get him for me. The next day she just showed up to the hosptial when I had him and acted like nothing happened. I never talked to her again. Fuck being a bigger person, that was foul, now we are cordial but I will never have the same respect for her as I did and my husband knows that. they haven't stayed with her since birth and never will, fuck her @renee556

You don't have to bring it up. If he wants to see his child tell him he can come over from 2 to 4 or what have you. End of story. You don't have to say anything else unless it's necessary. Taking the child isn't an option until me and you mother have a better relationship and they apologize and agree to disagree. We don't have to like each other but they need to respect my position as the babies mother because I'm not going anywhere and fyi she would be the last person to get custody by the way.

@beebaby, @renee556, I see both of your points! The way I see it is I first and foremost need to address the situation with my child's father because at the end of the day he's the one I have to deal with for the next 18 years and he's the only one besides me that has a say so about our child. I have tried to talk to his mother but that's when I got those nasty messages. I understand about being the bigger person and I agree with that but I've tried being the bigger person from the beginning and she's just blown up. I want my child to know his family and everything but I just don't feel comfortable letting my child go around someone that feels negatively towards his mother. She has called to apologize to his ex for the sake of his older son and that girl was beyond wrong! So my thing of it is, how should I address the elephant in the room? I don't want my ex to be sitting and expecting me to pop up with our son on Christmas, but I also don't want my child around anyone who has ill feelings towards his mother either. My mother, her mother, and sister will not be seeing Josiah on Christmas because of their lack of respect for me AND for my son's father I feel it should be no different on his end. If I were to talk to her I'd tell her that she was wrong, I no longer wish to have a relationship with her because she's the same type of person my mom is....the type that will listen to your problems just to use them against you when they're angry.

@beebaby, @renee556, but if she wants to be in my child's life she WILL respect me and I will respect her...

@beebaby, oh I know she'd be the last one to get custody....she's disabled, bed bound, has mental issues, AND to top it all off she ISNT my ex's biological mother

@beezy_mcflyy. u did more than

what was expected

u tried nd that's all u can do. Kissing ass hell no!! If the bd won't help resolve the issue then it would have to be on my terms that he see's my child. The way i see it u don't gotta like me but what u will do is respect me in front of me and my child and if that cant happen you don't get the privilege to be around my child

@renee556, EXACTLY!!!

😒😒😒😒 why are we having this conversation about a step mother

@beebaby, because he lives with her, his real mom passed, and he considers that his mom....so regardless of blood if he wants my son around her she has to find a new level of respect...point blank

@mommy1987 that's my point! I don't want my child around anyone that has ill feelings towards me

I was being sarcastic. Not serious.

@beebaby, oh my bad lol