@sheaxx, yes it's complete bull. I mean its one thing if your a mom that wants to do it all yourself but to say it's MY job. We're equal in responsibility, yes I may be able to calm him more but his needs can be met by both is us. I'll be going back to work soon nd I wonder what'll happen then.

Yeah he's never gotten up in the middle of the night with our son. He has the same mentality. It's fine with me since it's fair. Yeah it sucks but it is what it is. The newborn stage was very tough on me.

My husband doesn't help at all.. ok let me not. He does the bare minimum. He has never gotten up with our daughter when she wakes up. He has never bathed her, dressed her.. shit he don't know what size clothes she wear... now don't get me wrong he's a great dad/provider but he feels that stuff should be left to me because he works & it's not fair & it aggravates the hell out of me. I spoke about it with my mom & older women & they said it's pretty common for men to be like that because they don't have that motherly instinct to adapt as fast as we can.. I think it's bull but hey. My daughter sleeps through the night now so we don't have that issue anymore but I completely understand ya beef

Yes mine does he works 430pm-3am he changes her when he gets home and if she wakes up he puts her back to bed. and if she's sick he'll put some Vicks on her chest and the bottom of her feet. and if he's home when she goes to bed he'll help put her to bed he'll get her milk ready or dress her and bring her into her room kiss/hug her good night and say he loves her

I understand that he has to work ya know but I still think he should be able to get up at least once if I need it. And most the time I do because I'm so tired. Even if he just feeds him and I do the rest. His first response is always a complaint. And he always says if single moms can do it all the time why can't you.😑what.

Yes mines helps a lot and he goes to work at 5am and comes back around 6 or 7pm. And he still gets up in the middle of the night to feed her or change her diaper.

My husband helps on weekends but he works & I don't so I personally can't justify making him stay up with the baby when he has to wake up early to go to work for the day. My son is 8m & I still nap when he naps if I'm tired 🙃

And honestly that excuse is such a cop out. You weren't the only one to make that baby, it's not just your job. Just because he works doesn't mean anything. I hate that.

Most nights my SO won't help unless he knows I'm tired as hell. I don't care if he helps cause he works 60 hours a week and he needs his rest. I rather do everything anyways cause I don't like the way he does things lol

My SO has always helped. Didn't matter if he had to work or not. I use to tell him it was pointless to wake up since I breastfeed but he insisted. Said he didn't feel right not helping. He'll change his diaper or put him back to sleep.