Mommies, I need advice. So my fiance & I broke up a couple months ago. Recently I found out that she's getting to know/…

thank you 💚 @arivera64

best wishes to you moving forward mama

Things happen. Obviously she wasn't for me and I'm perfectly fine with it 😌 @arivera64

I don't blame you at all. I'm sorry things turned out like this for you guys.

She came over a minute ago and I was going to let her see her but then she started throwing our stuff on the porch out the car 😑 I've made my mind up. I think it'll be best for her not to see any of us ever again @arivera64

I'm so sorry mama. I'm glad you got out of an unhealthy relationship. I vote in agreement strictly just because of the abuse part.

sweet thank you ☺

not at all, I appreciate your honesty! @jgruenwald

not a problem I try to help I do apologize if it came off hateful I'm a very honest person

your definitely right! I really appreciate it 💚 @jgruenwald

you shouldn't feel like your taking her out of spite. your not doing that and in the back of your mind you need to keep reminding yourself that your doing what's best for your daughter. she's gonna think whatever she's gonna think and nothing you can say or do will make her change her mind. and yes you need to think of you and your daughter and love yourself and her mostly and firstly you can't keep putting yourself in a situation like that and live miserably over time it's going to affect you dramatically. your health your well being the way you look At yourself the way you take care of yourself. you can't always be a peace keeper even for children. I know that sounds really bad and you want both parents to be a part of the child's life but you got to think does my child really need this kind of negativity in a world that's already negative enough?

Okay, thank you @purpledragon

i think youre right

@jgruenwald most definitely, it's a very unhealthy relationship between us & I don't want to put my daughter in between anything but I also don't want her to feel like I'm taking her out of spite. Through it all I still care about her feelings but I have to love me & my child firstly. I can't do what I've been doing & sticking around trying to keep the peace for our baby & not be happy @jgruenwald

ah okay now I get it. yeah I don't blame you there personally if it was me I would tell her she needs to stop saying things like that because she's being a bad role model for your daughter. your daughter will grow up seeing that and she'll think its okay say hateful things to people and not think of others feelings. along with the abuse you dealt with. that alone would worry me because what if she gets mean towards your daughter or get frustrated with her crying a lot and loses her temper then what? and you do have to do what's best for her and that is a hard part about being a parent you get put in tough choices like this you don't want to be rude or hateful but you got to do what's best for the child.

No my ex fiance.. I dont trust her but I dont want to keep our kid away from her, but I feel like I'm being forced to do so... she gets mad and says things like "I don't want anything to do with Namï" or hurtful things about both me & our kid but still wants to be in her life @jgruenwald & @bellasmommy8790 idk what to do

i want to make sure i understand. the old friend is the one your asking about if you should let be around your daughter right?

well the abuse part would def make me worried to let my child be around her.