i don't know why but I have been so hateful towards my husband since Sawyer was born.. for no…
i don't know why but I have been so hateful towards my husband since Sawyer was born.. for no reason. i feel bad because I can tell it makes him upset but I just can't control it. I'm pretty vicious towards him, I don't know how to stop. he admitted to me today that he has been down the past week or so, and I have been having to make him eat dinner. i know it's because of my short temper, my anxiety has been through the roof and it makes me so irritable and Im taking it out on him ugh. i don't want any kind of affection from him and I know it's killing him but I just don't want to cuddle, or hug, or kiss. ugh how so I stop this
cici·
Мама сына-младенца
I feel really bitter and resentful sometimes. Like, he sleeps fine, his life hasn't changed that much, he doesn't lift a finger around the house... and I'm exhausted all the time, behind on housework and my entire life revolves around the baby. And then my husband will do something dumb like ask what's for dinner and my blood just boils. Don't get me wrong, I love my son, I love being a mom and I love my husband, but it pisses me off that it's never equal.
cici·
Мама сына-младенца
Anyways, I totally get where you're coming from. I don't know if it's a real condition, but I call it "postpartum rage"
Ashley Kiniry·
Мама сына-младенца
@ciraclesmiracle yes I completely understand. i love my son I never want to be away from him, the bond is extremely strong. but like you, my entire life is baby, and my husband gets to go to work and resume his normal life and then he comes home and gets to shower and eat a snack amd do other stuff without a baby attached to him. sometimes I just wish he would atleast give me a half hour or so of me time to do those same simple things too.
Heather·
I'm the same exact way!! resentful. not affectionate at all. just really rude towards him.
Ashley Kiniry·
Мама сына-младенца
@heatherlg88 I just dont understand though I feel so bad for being this way, he seems so sad and I can tell when he just wants to cuddle up to me but I can't.
Tatiana brown·
Мама двоих (1 год, 10 лет)
it's completely normal! after I had my son i was so resentful at the site of my babe would irritate me even when he'd do something nice for me. I would get mad for no reason. finally I went to therapy and stopped denying I was battling ppd, it's been little over a year and I'm slowly feeling like back to my old self and our relationship has gotten better. you will get better I promise! I did just recently read that it takes a woman a least a year to fully recover from child birth not just physically but emotionally you and your hunny will get through this ☺
cici·
Мама сына-младенца
Yup. I agree and I feel the same. And when I get upset with my husband he gets angry because he says I'm not clear enough about asking him to do stuff... but then I'm a nag if I ask too much. Honestly I just want him to be proactive and say, like, "hey--let me give the baby a bath so you can wash the dinner dishes" rather than just plopping on the couch and me having to "nag" him.