Just want to put something out there. I strongly desired to breastfeed. It didn't work out. Now, I have heard from my mom, from my mother in law, and from other women who have made me feel horrible about it like if I wasn't even trying hard enough to breastfeed my baby. I wanna say right now that people have to stop that. Whether a mom wants to not breastfeed, that's her choice and that doesn't make her a bad mother or the mother that's breastfeeding better then her. When my mom and other women around me made me feel bad, the first thing that went through my mind was that I was already failing as a mother because I wasn't breastfeeding. But from my experience I'm here to say that it's true. Sometimes the baby doesn't latch on and I never thought was gunna happen to me. Breastfeeding looks so easy when ever I would go to Wic or the doctors showed me the positions and I would be like "man I got this" but little did I know that no matter how many times I had lactation consultants help me breastfeed, it just didn't happen and no one needs to make a mother feel bad about that. She's probably already having a bad time already feeling bad about herself and then they come and make her worse. My mom will forever throw in my face I didn't breastfeed but next time I will stand up for myself and not let her make me feel bad again. To all the mothers out there, whether you breastfeed or formula feed, Your all doing an amazing job and it doesn't matter how you feed. #stopmomshaming
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@nissii1994, well I'm glad to hear you ignored all those bad thoughts because in the end we're our own worst enemy and we tend to put ourselves done first before someone puts us down.
Your post describes everything I felt when I tried breast feeding .. everyone would make me feel so bad cuz I wasn't breastfeeding... I wanted to do it so bad that even seeing moms breastfeed with out help or struggles made me feel upset at myself felt like a complete failure but now that I formula feed my baby and see how happy and chunky she is getting I could give two fucks about what any one says cuz I didn't breast feed .. (sorry for the cursing) but man people don't think before they talk it's like we went through so much already and breastfeeding is not for every mommy or baby !! #stopmomshaming
we decide what we do for our babies and our bodies are made special from God Himself. and if my own mom shames me of my body dysfunction which is not even my fault, then she is practically shaming God's creation itself. I would hate to be in her shoes
hugs for all mom's
look at yourself and say"I did it. " I grew a human and have birth. and its your body to begin with. if my mom pulled that crap with me, id tell her to go to hell. this is my mom moment. you can't steal my thunder!!!!! And kiss your grand baby goodbye.
Thank you!! I agree. Moms need a break after having a baby, our bodies are going through so much and we have so much emotions going on, people need to think before they make comments.
love this post!!! for so many reasons. seriously this needs to not be mom shamed any more
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Will your Mom be in the delivery room?
My mom made it sound like she was gonna be in the delivery room when I give birth, and quite frankly, I would just like it to be me and my fiancé. It's our first, and I want to share that special moment with just him. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I know this is something she would really like to be a part of. So I feel bad telling her no.
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Happy World Breastfeeding Week! Please share your breastfeeding stories and tips!
Hi everyone! @kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom here. For today's chat we're going to talk about breastfeeding and pumping in honor of World Breastfeeding Week! Both can seem complicated or stressful, but remember you have lots of support here! With my first son I had things going against us for breastfeeding.
I wish I knew back when he was younger that we could have still tried! With my second...
What would you do? - baby shower
SO my mom has been very negative about the baby my entire pregnancy. Especially in the beginning, she said the most HORRIBLE things about me, my DH and my unborn baby. Like that I was making a big mistake, that I was making her 2015 the worst year ever... etc etc. Even when she would do nice things she made me feel like I was a HUGE inconvenience and a burden to her. She told me to definitely NOT expect a shower or anything like that from her. Fine, whatever...
@ellamas, I agree