so i have been wondering why hubby stays up after work playin on his phone. he hides the screen from me etc. says hes playin Pokemon or Facebook. today he was up til 230. we live next door to his mom and family and she travels for work and is home so figured i would take our boys to see her. he wakes me up at 11am telling me its time to get up (he got home at 8am) and that he was going to bed. so i decided to go to his moms came home at 2ish to find sons coat and he was up on his phone. i asked why he wasnt asleep yet and he said "I cant fall asleep" i said "put your phone down and you would." last couple days hes been too into his phone. got me thinking something is happening. so i opened his phone today and he made an acct on meetme.com I was able to get into it and hes got his status as complicated. trying to meet with women to take them out to dinner get to know them etc. says he has a 3yr old and he will be with his mom on this day and doesnt even mention the new baby. we are married, living together (happily i thought), with 2 children. he tells me i have his heart and that he doesnt want anyone else. but hes talked to about 20 girls and one was wanting to meet and he stood her up and he was asking for another chance! wtf! he also cheated when I was 38weeks pregnant. idk what to do im not leaving if he wants someone else his ass can leave he obviously doesn't care about our "family" enough to keep it in his pants. ugh. i cant bring it up to him either cuz he will be like "why did you go through my phone you dont trust me you need to leave etc" tells me "if you leave ill take those boys and raise them you'll never see them again" which i know his family will do everything they can to keep me away from them. idk I love my husband with all i have and im so in love with him. why cant women just not be trifling whores and find someone whose not in a "its complicated" relationship. yeah its complicated to date cuz your fuckin married...
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@mcrowell0970, he goes through my phone all the time. he told me b4 finding out he cheated that i should trust him enough not to go through his phone.
he keeps changing passwords to facebook and everything like the meetme i was able to login on my phone yesterday after seeing his phone on it.it was the same password i use for stuff. tried again last night after he went to work to see if he was still messaging girls and he changed the password. he hasnt said anything to me about it or being on his phone.
@breezy1993 i left last july after being abused for stupid reasons. he wasnt working @ the time just me. so he was home sleeping it was july 4th and his mom was doing a bbq he said he wasnt going that we should go. so i took our son to it. he woke up awhile later just as food was getting done and i made our sons plate he hollered for me so i made him one and took it to him. he accused me of cheating out of no where and beat on me for hours. i ernded up going to work the next day with a softball sized bruise on my cheek and i claimed my son kicked me in the face. my boss didnt believe it and said if i didnt do something she would report it to the police herself. so i waited 10 days and during that time i got myself prepared to leave emotionally. i went to work on july 13th and asked my boss if i could leave early to go get a protective order. she said yeah, so i went and picked up my mom to go with me, she encoouraged me to do what i felt needed to be done they require women to put children on the protective orders too and i had to put my son down. that day after it was filled out they said they woul contact me but i told them to contact my mom instead and she would tell me safely. so just hours later i got a text from my mom for a "dentist" appt and the next morning i had court and left work early for that and the judge had me go to sheriff dept across st and have a deputy take me to get our son and our things. he wasnt allowed to talk to us, or touch us. he was home with our son who was just under 2 at the time. i left to live with my mom and dad. we filed divorce and the lawyer said we were legally separated then... that if either of us dated we couldnt hold it against each other in court we both agreed. i ended up starting to date someone else and it didnt work out because jealousy on both sides. i am still accused of being a "cheater:" to this day. he tries to say our newest baby is not his. last contact i had in that way with that guy or anyone besides my husband was oct 2015. baby was born oct.18,2016. he says comments like idk if hes mine, you couldnt be faithful etc. so i have left, at the time it did tear him apart but i think its made him more heartless than ever. i dont feel that connection mutually that we once had. i dont want to leave, i refuse to anymore. im not giving up on us and our family until he throws in the towel and leaves for once...
idk wat to do. my friend who i thought understood me throws it in my face that i left with our son etc and that its my fault he is the way he is. so i have no one to talk to but online groups who have women who can relate to me. i mean she just left and returned to her husband and i thought she would understand but i guess no one does around me.
@mcrowell0970 I agree. I would show him what it's like to be without you for awhile cause obviously after the first time he cheated he's not understanding. I know you are probably hurting but the longer younger him get away with doing this to you the worse it will get.
As his wife you have every right to look through his phone. If he gets upset at the fact that you looked through his phone then obviously his priorities are not straight. Stay strong through this. I am here if you need someone to talk to.
I agree with @mcrowell0970, your husband is to blame not to those girls. I'm so sorry though, that's a horrible situation. Definitely not a healthy relationship to be in. You should be loved, respected and valued by your husband.
why did you get back with him? I understand it's hard when you care about someone but if he was beating you and has been cheating on you what is so good about this man?