PLEASE READ I really need mommy advice. How would you respond. It just doesnt seem fair. Ill just…

I'm sure the baby daddy feels weird with him being there but if he's driving you up there he should be able to go...especially if BD just came back into the picture last minute and hasn't done much. both can be there but both need to be mature :) good luck

sorry that is ridiculous I went through almost the same thing with my kids father he kept wanting me to come over to do the DNA test but He actually wanted something else and I said my Bf was coming and he wasn't having it. he didn't want him there, and I didn't think that was right since he was never there for me once in my oregnacy but as soon as he knew I was happy he wanted something to do with my kid ,

I'd say sorry hes been more of a father to this baby than you have! I can see how it would be a little awkward, but that's his problem not yours. tough spot, my opinion is to take your bf with you.

this is second part to conversation.

yeah my bf is driving us up north to see my parents an hour and a half away. cause I gotta go up there to get bassinet. so to kill birds with one stone might as well do this baby shower baby daddy offered.(he also lives up north) it is nice of him. I know he throwing it and its his house but come on it doesnt seem fair to me for my bf not being able to come.. @njja53, @mrodriguez0305,

wow thats exactly what happened with son daddy. once I was happy with a guy he wanted a "part" in baby life and magically stopped carring about the DNA test. also mind u he has tried getting with me. I honesly am just too nice to him. and I think he manipulates me :( and im scared he will use stuff agaisnt me so I try to be mature and nice to him since it takes two to make a baby and I feel like no matter what I have to try to have positive relationship with him @njja53

my bf has been already a better father and he knows it isnt his which is the crazy part. hes a good guy. he just doesnt like when baby daddy works me up or trys ti get with me.(which is understandable) if baby daddy was respectful and actually wanted to be there for baby without doing that stuff to me my bf wouldnt care at all. @ryliannsmommy,

I used to cry about baby daddy alot and my bf had to soothe and calm me down. I remember this whole pregnancy I kept updating baby daddy. showed him videos of heartbeat and the sex of baby... but he never responded.... he never responded till I got my.own.place with a good guy who cares about my son. he didnt write me till he saw I was happy and he was out of relationship.

You both have nothing to do with eachother. I see nothing wrong with you bringing him. He should be greatful your bf has been by your side. If it'll help the "akwardness" maybe do a unisex baby shower. Have the guys on both sides of the family come. That way atleast they arent the only guys there. I feel like that'll relieve the tension.

If he chose not to be there for the first 30 weeks of your pregnancy he already walked out on your child. He can't come around when it's convenient for him. I understand he's the biological dad but he made the chose to leave when he did so its best to just keep him away. you don't want someone coming in and out of your child's life when they damn please. As for the baby shower if your current boyfriend has been there for you since day one and he wants to be apart of that babies life he's just as much of a father. Blood doesn't mean anything. If your current boyfriend does want to be there for you and baby he should be able to celebrate the welcoming of your child as well. It seems your baby daddy is up to something sneaky

It's his baby in ur bf ur boyfriend should. It be allowed to go why let the drama happen he can stay at home he has nothing to do with the shower he isn't the farther that's weird in comfortable

@rainbowbaby2015, ugh men do get scared Ik it's not right for them to walk away but that's his baby too not just hers well hers more than his hit don't be telling people not to let someone see there child that's evil in not right its not about them it's About the child

both of them thought of me and baby at end. bf said to go and baby daddy said he can come. so its okay now..and my bf should have ever right to come. deff since we will be an hour and a half away, hes driving me, and doesny know area. also hes in the picture father or not and has done more for baby and me then baby daddy has.... but im happy both of them thought of me and babby in their conclusions. @rainbowbaby2015 @princessqueen