idk if this is selfish or not , but I need to vent . I feel like since the birth of my daughter I…
idk if this is selfish or not , but I need to vent . I feel like since the birth of my daughter I don't have any me time and I know I'm a mother but with an almost one year old and a newborn its hard and they're dad is here with me . When he's at work its just me , my son wants to come lay on me while I'm holding the baby he wants to get in my lap while I have the baby and I still have his son and my daughter that I have to care for as well . Its a job man and he comes on and goes to sleep when he gets sleepy at night he just goes , doesn't even bother to ask if I need help with the kids. Like I literally don't even have time to eat some days . Seems like when on is asleep the other is up or one cries and wakes the other one up . When he gets off work all I ask is that I just have a moment to breathe to eat . I'm 24 years old . I shouldn't be feeling so stressed out when there's two parents . Idk maybe I'm just being selfish
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Your not being selfish your just being honest. It's hard it really is. As a parent of almost 3 kids now I know its tough as hell....and sometimes mommys just need a break. Maybe you should sit down with him and tell him the truth and see if every now and then you can just have some you time. Everyone needs some time for themselves regardless or it can cause a lot of stress.
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My husband helps out a lot.... and I'm not guna lie when I say I'm nervous for when I have this next baby in a couple of weeks bcuz I will lose sleep and be running around etc. and I know thats what being a mommy is about sometimes but I am honest about it. Its never easy.
Bianca·
Мама двоих (младенец)
You're not being selfish, I have the exact same issue. We have an 8 yr old, 5 mos old, and I have an 11yr old step son. I love being a mother but I literally do EVERYTHING. I get it, I'm a sahm so I get the brunt of it, but even on wkends, he just goes about his business while I hold the baby 24/7. I'll be on the couch holding her on one knee while eating on the other side and he won't offer to take her, he'll just sit there on his phone! Makes me really resentful
Delia·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (21 нед.)
Not being selfish. Im in the same boat. Our son just turned 1 last month and baby 2 will be here in March. Its me all day with our son while BF works. He doesn't help me at all. He thinks buying diapers and jordans is enough help. NOT! Lately our son has been sick from his shots so you know hes cranky and he wakes at night for comfort. BF gets mad at me for him crying. Uhh not my fault! I do eveything I can to make him stop and he just wants to be held. My bf just saya unnecessary comments like "i work so I need sleep you sit home all day and no nothing" BITCH I SHOULD STAB YOU. Ugh he irritates my SOUL! I live with my mom but we come spend at least 4 days out the week here at his mom's house where he lives. Well if you're gonna bitch maybe we won't come over anymore and you see your son when you have time. Now with #2 coming we're trying to figure out whos gonna watch our son when im in the hospital with the new baby because he said he's not gonna take off work to watch him.. It makes me really sad and wonder why I had kids with him sometimes.
RoRo 💖💜·
Мама дочки (1 год)
can I ask a question ? @andrewsmommy
RoRo 💖💜·
Мама дочки (1 год)
was he like that with your son non helpful? @andrewsmommy
Delia·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (21 нед.)
@marleiismama he still is. In the beginning it was "cant help you cause you breastfeed" i started him on formula at 3 weeks because he stopped latching and even then he didnt help feed him or change him. Hes changed him maybe 4 times the whole year our son has been alive. He has a "weak stomach" But he wipes his own ass!! Hes probably fed him the same amount of time as the diaper changes.
RoRo 💖💜·
Мама дочки (1 год)
what a lazy ass ! all those fucking excuses ! so what are you gonna do with baby #2? are you gonna leave him @andrewsmommy
Delia·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (21 нед.)
@marleiismama i don't want to but its only so much i can take. I could smash his phone and ps4 and still he wouldn't help. His mom and my mom help more.
Delia·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (21 нед.)
its getting to the point where I am gonna be done
Nakeia White·
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
Put yourself on a schedule with the kids, it will be easier set up nap time play time lunch. But you also need to put your foot down to your kids father bc he still have an obligation to those kids