i need advice... im on my phone but i logged onto my husbands play store account to see what apps he has downloaded. i saw snapchat, meet me and a texting app. we do not have snapchat for multiple reasons. and in the past he has messaged other girls and flirted with them. he would deny it until i found something. i had a feeling but i just try to ignore it because i dont want to be without him. i want this family with him. but i dont know what to do anymore. i messaged him confronting that i know he has downloaded those apps and why is it doing this to me again. he wont have sex with anyone else or meet them, he just messages them and flirts. but he knows that is cheating. i am so lost right now and i have no idea what to do. i dont want this to be true. what do i do? 😢
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that has to be really annoying 😞 its frustrating dealing with people like that @amberjacq
yeah that's a good idea especially if he just argues he's not mature enough yet to talk calmly sometimes it takes awhile for men to mature and I feel you my real dad is the same way I'll try to talk to him seriously but then he'll start to joke or his new soon to be ex wife will jump in and say something completely rude and unnecessary so I know how it feels to have someone not take you seriously
i try to sit down and talk to him calmly. but he gets angry and has an attitude and i stay calm but it is like he doesnt want to talk things out. he is stubborn and doesnt like to argue. and every time i try to talk seriously he thinks i am arguing with him and i say how am i arguing when i am calmly trying to talk things out with you and you just keep getting an attitute. it might be nice that you and your husband have that communication. no matter what i cant get that with him so idk how else to talk to him. so i just stopped. im just gonna let him come to me and not show that i care or wanna work things out cuz then he will probably realize im being serious. @amberjacq
if you still love him and want to forget then the only way you can do that is to forgive him it's hard to forgive but it's worth it cause of you dont forgive you'll hold on to that sadness and anger and always be mad at him and continue to have problems and y'all need to learn how to calmly communicate with our yelling at one another and tell eachother how your feeling and what's bothering you and what y'all think needs to change and be worked on in your relationship, me and my husband calmly sit down and talk about the things that bother us and we work on those things together , forgiveness, communication, and trust are very important in a relationship and it's good you kissed him before he left that's a very good step of working towards forgiveness
i think he does because when he was about to leave he was holding onto me and kissing me all over my face trying to make me smile, but all i wanted to do was cry. i love him so much and i just wanna forget about it.. but how can i? ive just been really sad ever since and i just havent said anything to him since last night. but i did kiss him before he left
he sounds like he's trying to make up for him being mean so hopefully he feels bad for lying to you
hes about to go to work now but he has been trying to cuddle and rub my belly but i am not paying any attention to it because he needs to know im not a game. and yea i guess but idk.. i cant see us breaking up :/ @amberjacq
that's true a relationship is a 50/50 effort to work on the relationship and if one is giving more then the other then most likely it's not going to work out cause the other is being lazy in the relationship and if y'all don't work out he could straighten up his attitude and actions eventually and y'all could end up getting back together me and my husband when we were dating we both up and then got back together and have been together ever sense so sometimes a break up is what the relationship needs
maybe. i do want to but its like he doesnt try so why should i @amberjacq
i have just been quiet.. i just am tired of getting hurt and i just have nothing to say to him @amberjacq
Do what is right for you and your baby and if forgiveness is what you think is best then go for it and if not then go for it you just do what you believe is the right thing
you did ☺ i am just trying to figure out whether this is worth it or not. @amberjacq my love for him is so strong... and i cant imagine myself without him. but i need to face the facts and go with what is best for me and our baby
thank you @amberjacq we will see how the rest of the night goes
well if those apps are clearly on his phone and you saw them with your own two eyes then he's lying to you about that and that's not good that's not what you're supposed to do in a relationship you aren't supposed to lie because the breaks trust and obviously he's lied to you in the past because if he didn't then you would be feeling this way and a relationship without trust isn't a real relationship cause you never know when that person is lying to you and being fake with you and you honestly could do a lot better then have some boy lie to you over him downloading apps like seriously dude that's so immature and childish to lie and risk your girls trust by lying about downloading apps on your phone and if I was you I'd talk to him and ask him why he would lie about something so small and stupid and tell him he's being childish and immature by not owning up and telling you about him lying about downloading apps and I wouldn't yell at him about it I would just talk to him calmly about it and be mature about it and if he starts raising his voice at you just keep talking calmly and if he continues to yell just walk away because he's clearly not mature enough to have a calm conversation with you
@yazdahboss, @amberjacq i just was at his job and he said he didnt download them and he swears to god and believe what i want. i just honestly dont know what to think. and then me my mom and her husband were in his job and he was helping this girl and to me it sounded like he was flirting with her, but i could be over reacting. he is fake with people because he knows they are fake. so he acts all nice and stuff but idk.. all my emotions are making me think so much rn. its all complicated and i love him so much. i dont want us over, but like.. i dont want him talking to other girls. he knows this for a fact. he knows how i am. and he didnt know i was there at his job and when he saw me he made a face like he knew he was about to get yelled at but i couldnt make a scene there. so im gonna talk to him when i pick him up later but i know he will just deny it. so idk.. he is a great guy dont get me wrong. but idk what to think
I hate MeetMe app with a passion! women on there are so nasty and are always trying to get with your man and everything I'm so glad my husband got rid of that app back when we were dating cause if he hadn't got rid of it that app would of cause us some problems and me and my husband don't use snapchat or Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or anything else but YouTube, Pinterest, Kik, and I use momlife, and period diary app, and he uses his gaming accounts, and stupid Facebook messenger app but that's it and if I was you I'd tell him that you don't like that he uses those apps and if he doesn't delete them then he doesn't really care about you cause my husband told me he didn't like me using Facebook and Twitter so I deleted my Twitter account and I don't ever get on Facebook and he told me he don't want me having and Instagram and I didn't make one and I did all those things because I love my husband and care about our relationship more then some stupid social media app and my husband did the same thing when we were dating we haven't use any of the apps that we stopped using sense we were 16 or 17 and if your man really cares about you he'd stop using those apps for you cause your relationship should be more important to him then some stupid apps
Damn . Just enjoy your anniversary if you still want to be with him! And if not just talk to him about this things and if he is not willing to change that for you then you already know .
thank you @bonniesue i am going to his work now to bring him lunch and talk to him. it is ride or die. hes in it for the long run or its over. our baby isnt going to have fighting parents. nope. i have to think about her now and what is best for her.
thank you @bonniesue i am going to his work now to bring him lunch and talk to him. it is ride or die. hes in it for the long run or its over. our baby isnt going to have fighting parents. nope. i have to think about her now and what is best for her.
Girl, he's trash. I know you love him but some times you need to take a step back and look. I hope you all the best.
and it is our anniversary today.. great one huh?
and i thought i was broken because my past and everything i suffered from. its sad how im 10 years younger than him and i stay home all day and I dont cheat. instead i cook and clean all day. but yet he works 9 hours a day and gets an hour break and that is the time he spends talking to other girls. cuz when he isnt at work he is home with me. it is so sad how immature he is being. i really want it to work with him, but i just cant take his word again. i need actions. this has to stop or he will lose the best thing that has happened to him and he knows it. i can work no problem and support me and our baby. i dont need him. and he is going to realize that tonight @bonniesue @yazdahboss
You are 100% not the problem. Something is wrong with a man who needs attention from multiple women. He's broken
@mybabychloe011017, yes it is. At the end is their lost even if it feels like is your lost at the moment
its sad how people take you for granted 😔 @yazdahboss
@mybabychloe011017, yea at that point I would kick his fuckn ass . If I'm doing EVERYTHING to take care of you why the fuck are you looking for other bitches! . I would honestly leave his dumb ass even if it's for a bit so he can appreciate what you do for him! I don't even do half the things you do for him for my man , he would never do this but if he did I would fuckn cut his dick off!! GO FLIRT , GO TALK TO BITCHES NOW WITH NO DICK!
@mommy1987, thank you. i really want a family with him and i do everything i possibly can to please him. i just dont know what else i can do. i just.. idk. maybe love just isnt for me.
@bonniesue, @yazdahboss but i dont get it because i always give him my full attention when he is home. he always comes home to a meal, i always make his lunches, it is always clean, the laundry is always done, i always pick him up and drop him off at work. i do everything i possibly can to make him happy. we have sex when he wants to. i always do what he ask, i wake him up to breakfast every morning.. i mean what else can i do? what am i doing that is wrong? i seriously do the same thing every day to take care of him. i just, i do not understand why he would want to hurt me like this... again.
Sorry you are going through this . I don't have to deal with this with my bf but in other relationships I have dealt with that and I tried to get over it but trust me nothing changes they will keep doing it . Talk to him and ask him . Some guys do this when they feel like there's something they want from you but you are not giving it to them .
Aw sweetie. I'm sorry. I'm going to tell you that if you just sweep it under the rug or tell him you can't be without him, etc this will happen again. It starts out as texting and attention seeking, then it gets to hooking up. His need for attention is unacceptable when he has you at home. Screenshot and save any proof you have. Do not allow him to blame you at all, it's his actions that's a problem. Good luck
Honestly, if he's done it before he's gonna do it again. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but the same thing happened to me and my sons father screwed me over. I'd rather be alone then lied to and treated like it's my fault. I gave him chances and his chances ran out. I feel sad, but free almost.