Yeah you wouldn't wanna give dad custody just to have the baby end up in shitty foster care once dad fucks up one too many times. Usually lawyers will do a free 30 min consultation. Look into it! Hopefully things work in your favor.

@babymaciesmomma, I know adoption is really hard but at least I'd know that they'd be well taken care of. and we'd be able to pick the parents.

I'd ask a lawyer and then start looking for a family. If you find a nice suitable family that you and he can meet with he might change his mind.

That's where legal advice would come in handy. They probably wouldn't give him custody then.

@babymaciesmomma, idk...what I'm gonna do then. I can't just give up all rights to him when we already have another kid. and he's on probation for one, for two he likes to drink and smoke weed. and party. I just ugh.

@klatti89, his excuse for not helping is I won't let him sleep over there. for one, when I do don't wake up in the middle of the night with him when he fusses. because sometimes he has those days. then he is cranky on the morning and I'd half asleep taking care of him in the morning. not to mention when I went to wrk at 6am and came back by 3 our son had a huge scratch on his face and he has NO IDEA where It came from.

@klatti89, expecially trying to get through nursing school.

@klatti89, he's had 9 months with our first son. I can't raise 2 babies on my own.

@klatti89, no excuse in my opinion. I was scared to. nor did I have time to adjust. he don't help financially, he doesn't ask me to bring him over there. there is loads of reasons.

maybe him nt helping u in certain areas isn't cz he doesn't want to maybe he is scared n doesn't wanna admit it.... mii fiancé was scared shitless with our first son.... he wouldn't walk up or down stairs with him wn he did I had to be right behind him cz he was nervous.... the first time he gave him a bath be called mi mom friends n waited til mii lil brother showed up are u sure it's nt outta fear

Yeah, you can't give a baby up for adoption without the dads consent. There was just a huge case in the national news, a mom did that and the baby was returned to the dad. Seek legal advice, and then try to talk to him some more and get his consent

maybe u talking about it prompted change in him give him a chance to prove himself

@hayhayes1, awe I'm sorry!!! I would do what everyone is saying seek legal advice. I hope it all works out for you!!! Adoption is a great thing to do too. I have a cousin that can not have kids and she has been trying to adopt for two years now. So you giving someone the gift to have a baby is a great thing.

I agree with @klatti89

@hayhayes1, call an adoption attorney & say that you want to ask a question then ask. they won't give you much detail over the phone but you can see if they do free consultations (a face to face meeting) where you talk about the situation and get more in depth information on what you need

@pebblestone, thank you!

@jujukiss, do I just randomly call an attorney and ask?

@datnavajogirl, I've looked into it and I've read a lot about how it could be possible they think but I have to get the father's signature.

@mommy_of_04, he hardly helps out with our 8month old son now. @klatti89

🤔🤔🤔 what a interesting question. seek legal advice preferably free consultations and you'll get an answer

if u dnt want the baby but he does why don't u just let him have sole custody???

I don't think he has a option it's only the mothers

Ask an attorney or someone in public services

If you don't mind me asking... why couldn't he keep the baby if he still wants the baby? Very understandable if you don't want to answer it because I know it's personal and it's none of my business