I just need to rant for a minute. My husband cannot function on less than 8 hours of sleep. He works until 11pm and gets home at midnight. So at night time, it's normally me who's up all hours of the night if Evelyn isn't sleeping well. And of course she wakes up at the butt crack of dawn. I've tried waking him up when we both get up (normally 6:30-7) or waking him up around 8 and he gets so mad that I woke him up. Granted, I'm not very nice when I wake him up because I'm extremely jealous that he slept oh so great and I got maybe three hours of sleep. It bothers me so much. And whenever I do ask for his help at night, I have to wake him up first and he's so out of it. Once I woke him and asked him to go get Evelyn out of her crib and bring her to our bed cuz I was so exhausted and he looked me in the eye and said "where is she?" I said "in her crib babe" and then he rolled over and went back to sleep 😡
Ohhhh I know that frustration! I had my first at 19. My husband worked third shift then and would literally sleep all day until he had to go back to work again. If I woke him up to spend time with us he would be so grumpy and mean. Then he got a job working swing shifts. He had a hard time adjusting to the rotating shifts but got days off between them. Even on his days off he would sleep and thats it. He never got up to help me at night or even during the day. At this point we now had two little girls. I would tell my husband that I would watch him sleep with so much jealousy and at times hate because I was so exhausted too. I never got sleep though. It only took my husband joining the military and being deployed when our third daughter was only three weeks old to understand that he was missing out on important, special times with our girls. Now there are times when he wakes up to our two year old crying at night, and I sleep right through it. I am still the one who loses out on sleep more often, but he actually helps out now.