Trying a new bedtime routine and letting her cry it out and it's killing me! Need advice! For months she's fallen asleep in my arms but I can't do it anymore, she's taking hours to settle and even then she waking up because she wants cuddle I so t know what to do 😑
is it wrong to be frustrated that my daughter acts like she can't do certain things with out my help. she plays dumb a lot and I wish I could be like no girl show what you know. she acts like she can't trace or match shapes so shes ask for "mommy finger" to help her so I barely hold her hand and she magically can do it but if I dont hold her hand she just scribbles and acts like she doesnt know the pic is how she traces when I'm "helping her" otherwise it'll just be scribbles all over the page
Advice please ? Long story... I'm getting married in April we decided no kids other than our own two and my niece And nephew as would end up more kids that adults and it would Cost so much more plus wanted parents to have a day/night to enjoy themselves. Anyway my "maid of honor" ( hasn't done much to help but cause me stress) has 5 kids her youngest will be around 5 months old she's breastfeeding him and keeps telling me she is gonna try and express ect... but I know she has no intentions of doing that and I worry she's gonna put me on the spot the day before and say he won't take a bottle (cos she wouldn't have tried) so she either can't come or has to bring him. I'm spending a lot of money for her dress, hair make up food ect... so deffo don't wanna be let down. But it's not just her that's got kids the ushers have kids and we said no kids. Now I know it's different as she's feeding him but I dunno what to do!? Do I say she can bring him (if my oh agrees too) or do I say she can't. This all sounds so awful when I read it but there will be two other guests that will have newer baby's than that coming and they arnt bringing them. The biggest thing is she's just not talking to me about any of this she's ignoring my messages and not making contact with me. But she's spoken to a friend about it who told her to talk to me and be honest about it all! Torn tbh as she's already not coming on my hen but still hasn't told me this!!! If she just came to me and said look I'm feeding my baby I don't wanna bottle feed him so either he comes or I can't I'd be happier she's being honest rather than dragging it out making out she gonna try and express. I don't expect her to I said it's down to her it's her baby. May I add that we fell out a while ago as she wasn't bothering with me ect any way we made up and I asked her be part of the wedding again so she could have said then I can but il have a baby then, but she didn't she just said it will be fine il sort out. So stressed ?
Update on Isabella's op She's back and doing really well! She looks good and the operation went well! Xx
She just keeps crying! She's had a nap, she's been fed, had her diaper change. What do I do!
Steph·
Мама троих детей
Hi Hun I did what @jod1303 and @sara-lou did with my son years ago, it really works but most parents give in before the 3 days rule is up. I thought it was just rubbish but after 3 nights of doing it we'd cracked it! He went from being ticked to sleep to going down awake swaddled in his own room with the light off and door nearly closed. It's worth the tears xxx
TaraLou·
Мама троих детей
im sure they go thru a stage of anxiety around this age too... but will get easier xx
TaraLou·
Мама троих детей
@sara-lou got it spot on... thats what I do... and I got a speaker that you put a memory card in to and I put some sleepy music on there and play that in my sons room.... now dont have to go in other than to check them... xx
Hannah Louise·
Мама дочки-младенца
Thanks girls! It's so hard to find something that works, it doesn't help that she teething and over tired! I just can't keep cuddling her to sleep, I'm making a rod for my own back 😬😬
Sara-Louise·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I do what Jody mentioned. After cuddles and saying goodnight I leave or sit near by. If they get upset I give them a minute or 2 then I go back. Lay them back down say goodnight and leave again. I'll try and leave it a bit longer each time but even if I go back after a minute or 2 I do the same thing. I don't talk or make a fuss. just stroke their face say goodnight and leave again. First night or 2 you may be up and down like a yo-yo but I've done this with both my boys from day one. If they have a bad night I go back and do it again. I've never let my boys cry or get distressed as I can't bare it but at the same time I don't get them out of their cot. They soon learn. If their poorly or not themselves in anyway I pick them up. They've slept in our bedroom etc but day to day they know they sleep in their cot. Some mummy's rock their babies off and that's fine for them but for me I like that both my boys can get themselves to sleep independently. If they wake during the night I do the same thing. Obviously checking nappies and feeding before hand if needed. It does take consistancy. Hope this helps !
Hannah Louise·
Мама дочки-младенца
She's seven months today! I just can't keep letting her fall asleep on my it's not a good routine at all! Xx
jody·
Мама троих детей
theres a method online. where u go in and out comforting her goin longer each time it really will work if u stick to it. i let my son walk all over me he didnt sleep through til 18 months i wont be doin thst this time xx
TaraLou·
Мама троих детей
How old is your baby? x
Becky·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
Have u got anything with lullabies on u could try playing? Lullabies help settle my daughter xx