Any of you ladies not having your mom come and help you right after birth.? Do you think it's…

My mom lives 1500 miles away from me and didn't come up to see the baby til she was 2.5 months and it was better off. I think it depends on your situation but for me my mom brings a lot of stress to my life so it was better to not have her overwhelming me while I was adjusting to motherhood

@bria That's how I feel. My mom causes me an extensive amount of stress. And is now treating me like complete shit for not having her here the second the baby is born.

No my boyfriend was the only one who helped in the hospital as well as at home. My sister did stay with me a few nights at the hospital but she wasn't much help lol

My mom did the same thing but she got over it. At the end of the day what's most important is you & baby's well being. You being stressed out isn't good for either of you. Tell her you want time to bond with your child there's nothing wrong with that. My SO wasn't really any help during my labor & delivery and first few weeks home, he's a lot better now but even having to do it all on my own I found it the best and honestly the bond my daughter & I have is like none other 😍

@guaderrama_babies2 yeah I was just wondering if I was the only one that didn't really want a bunch of people around specifically my mom. as horrible as that sounds....

@bria I have tried to explain it to her. she doesn't listen at all and doesn't care to. The only thing she's concerned about is getting her way and guilt-tripping me. my boyfriend only has a 1 bedroom apartment and he already lives with his brother. And she expected me, her, my boyfriend and his brother and the baby all to cram pack in a one-bedroom apartment. I'm actually going to be staying at my dad's place because I have my own room there and bed so me and my boyfriend can stay for a week or two just to have our own little space away from everyone. And my mom's Furious. I have already paid rent to have this room here for the rest of this year too.! and it's literally right down the street from the hospital like 3 minutes away. but apparently I'm selfish because I want my child to bond with my man and I first...

@reyesmomma, my mom is in Mexico so she couldn't make it in time. I wouldn't want her in there she would've been talking crap because I chickened out according to her by getting the epidural at 6cm

@guaderrama_babies2 that's really annoying that would just piss me off if someone had something to say because I had pain medications I would tell him to shove it up their ass being my mom or not. lol but that's just me.

My mom will be around while I'm in the hospital but not after because I will be moving 3 hours away after I get out of the hospital unless I have a c-section and then ill be staying with her but it's completely fine to tell your mom you want time to bond with baby

my mom helped me through 4 days of labor and went back to work the day after I had my daughter. But to be honest my husband and I felt capable of taking care of her and she was a easy newborn so we didn't go as crazy and sleep deprived as we thought we would. my mom did come take her for 2 days when she was 6 weeks old

@ashley07 I have she only cares about her bonding with the baby

@zehmbabies yeah I would never leave my child alone with my mom. but I don't have the same relationship with my mom that the majority of the rest of the world has with their mother. I seriously think CPS would take my child away from me if I would leave my child with her for any extended period of time.

I'm sorry I wish I knew something else you could tell her that might help @reyesmomma

@ashley07 it's okay I wish I could too but it's just not going to happen. She's concerned about what she wants and how she feels. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't the only one who didn't have their mom around. and to feel like I'm not being the bad guy. my mom is really good at blaming everything on me (and everyone else) even when we (my brother and I) were children. she takes no responsibility for anything ever.!

Just stand your ground. If she shows up to the hospital uninvited, have the nurses tell her she can't go in (they'll have your back don't worry). You've made clear and set plans for your post birth time, and I think it's great you've got somewhere close to the hospital to stay with your man and baby to enjoy some quality time. It's the best time ever and my daughter is already 15 wks and the time flew by! Enjoy every second. Your the mommy ❤️ deal with every one else and the bs later. Enjoy that baby! 💋😘

@bria Thank you.! At this point she wants nothing to do with me now apparently she doesn't even want me to tell her when the baby is born because she's being so dramatic that she's not getting her way.

I'm having my hubby stay home the first week home and my mom will come help me the second week.

Lol do we have the same mother ????? My mom tried to pull the same shit. She'll get over it lol.

@nowmrspost I'm most likely having my man for the first 2 weeks and then he'll get back to work. That's nice that you get to have your mom around though. Ideally if I had A positive mother figure I would want that too but that just isn't the case for me.

my hubby wanted to take more time off, but I want him back to work after a week paid since he'll be covering all bills for 3 mos or so. my mom's one of my best friends and a great mother and grandmother to her other grandchildren so far

@nowmrspost yeah I don't have the luxury of having a great mom. I haven't even lived with my mom since I was seven or eight years old because I was put in foster care.

I wish I had a mom like everyone else. but all I can do is be the mother I wish I had.

I'm sorry to hear it. that's true, good outlook!

@nowmrspost it's ok ☺ and thanks I'm trying

I'm sorry to hear that but your not the only one a lot of people don't like having help the first couple weeks just so they can bond with out any interference from others @reyesmomma

@reyesmomma, my mom told me some thing about tradition of the mom coming to stay with the daughter I replied by saying well what about my MIL she replied by saying well ur house is big enough for all of us I said right then o no I was nice and said we don't want any spend the night company the first couple weeks then I said after hubby goes back to wk ur more than welcome to come. At hospital we didn't call or tell anyone until 2 hr after his birth my mom drive the 4 hr trip on the second night we spent at hospital and she stayed only bc she said it was to far to just come for a visit. When baby was one month she came and spent the weekend I planned and asked her too like 2 weeks before. If I was u I would just have u your man and baby no one else.