@patti28, I get what you're saying and that's been one of the few slim reasons why I'm actually considering it. Maybe being away from his friends will be good for him. Plus, I feel like for the sake of my children, I should at least give this a try. If it doesn't work out, I can always pack my stuff and come back home.

I believe maybe he is trying to be a man if that's what you've been hoping would change in him. If u don't let him try, you'll never know. Go with him.

@delis619, Thank you. It's gonna be hard but I'll figure out what's best. ❤️

we all can give you advise and opinions but only you know your repationship, deep down you know whats best for you and your baby, and YOU have alot of power dont let him scare you either, ive seen it done and you be surprised how many times my friends folded just because they were scared. be tuff! amd goodluck momma

@_jessica_xoxo ooohh i see what your saying i was hoping it would be easy and you would say 100 percent happy but if you having concerns yea you are stuck....well in that case if you go, it may be better because more money saved and maybe money was also an issue, if it wouldnt be hard for you to pick up your things and come back home if it did go sour then go for it. but if it would be hards then yes you do have to think because like i mentioned no point in going if you already know in time its going to fail.

@mamaash, Yeah. I mean especially you, you know a lot of the struggles I've gone through with him and I just have a gut feeling that this wouldn't be the right move for me and the kids. He just seems so willing to leave without us and as a parent, I can't imagine ever just getting up and willingly leaving the babies.

i believe if hes not willing to compromise then you shouldn't either. im not trying to make your choice for you. it's just my opinion. Marriage or even just having kids together is a give and take thing.

so selfish of him. i don't think you should go. you guys already had problems and he seems to be making decisions just for himself NOT his family. he didn't even really consider what you're feeling just put his two weeks in and his bouncing pretty much and is like hey either u come or u don't....

what the f

@karramaej, I suggested that and he took it SO personally. He got so so mad, like if I was already saying no to leaving at all.

Have you guys talked about him going alone at first and proving he wants you guys there. Like make him get his steady job before you move with him. Time away from his kids might knock some sense into him.

@delis619, @karramaej @patti28 I get what you all are saying. Thing is that him and I have been having problems for a while already. He's not good at taking care of his kids. We've always fought about money and him spending time with the kids and he's trying to convince me that leaving is going to change all that. He says he's going to get a steady job and he'll be always from his friends so it's change. I just don't know if I believe him. I have no problem leaving my family, just don't know if I trust what he's saying..

I vote go with him.....

dont think of it as a negative decision. if you are happy with your bf then go with him, you have to think a out YOUR lil family now, you cant be with mom and pops forever. you should be excited you starting a good new chapter in life. who knows maybe you.ll move back because he doesnt like it?

if you are not happy with him, then why waste time tryin for something that is set up for failure. yes think hard, but you also have a family.

I say sit down and make a list of pros and cons. I moved from Wa to Az because it would be easier financially to take care of my daughter. And honestly it has helped a lot. Just paying less in rent helps a lot. But leaving my mom in a different state was one of the hardest things I've done. Knowing my daughter wont meet my mom until shes 1 ish is one of the biggest cons.