If it's your husband or wife's birthday or boyfriend/girlfriends birthday, would you want that person to go off and stay…

If it's your husband or wife's birthday or boyfriend/girlfriends birthday, would you want that person to go off and stay the night somewhere knowing that they knew you had plans with them that night? But they act like they forgot or didn't know ? But than get mad if you were to do what they were doing and they think it's okay for them to do it but if you were to do it it would be a big deal?? Like because I told my husband that and he just got smart with me, I don't mind him seeing his family in his birthday but if you knew I had something planned that night why stay the night somewhere else? Like really?? And now he's changed his mind and not going no where, I told him he could go see his family that I wanted him home at night but whatever just get mad with me than!