Trying to teach your spoiled 1 month old to self soothe is pure hell... i hate hearing him cry, but i have to stop…

@rene_74, we practice attachment parenting too!! Our oldest of five kids we used the CIO method and the bond we have with our youngest four is so different. She is as close to us as the others. Our fourth child is 21 months, he breastfed until 18 months (self weaned) and he has had ZERO issues going to bed without nursing or a soppy cup!!

how is that working for you I hate hearing my daughter cry so I went out and bought carrier it usually puts her to sleep. but I'm sure that's the same thing as holding get right@chasingjaedyn_est0916

sweety, my hubby and I tried the CIO method for a week. I couldn't bare to hear him cry. he would stop crying as soon as I held him. I hold my 29mo everyday. I just hold him. we are in the attachment patenting boat. we Focker-ize our son. hug and kiss this lil prince like there's no 2mro. ♡♡♡ momma, you can never hold your baby too much. ever. my mom did the CIO method with me at a week. still swears I'm going to have a hard time getting him to sleep on his own, or alone considering I still breastfeed him. I say pah-ha! my hubby and I are doing what we feel is right.♡♡♡ plus CIO method puts stress on the baby's developing brain and that's no good to teach a baby, that when I'm stressed no one comes when I cry, since that's the only way for me to communicate, so I cry and want to be held. once hubby and I learned this we said no to that. it's just wasn't what we could do. plus as mothers it's programmed in us to run and pick up our crying newborn/ toddler/ child/ teen...and so forth. you're doing the right thing. pick him up momma, love that angel, you're in no way spoiling that lil prince. best of luck dollin 💜💜💚💚

I always waited 15 min

babies don't know how to self sooth until 3-4 months. even later for some...

Crying it out

@halsey11, CIO?

you should look up the 4th trimester.

I also use my carrier a lot 😬

My little boy is a month old as well. He hates being put down too, which is normal. He's been with me for his whole life. What I've been doing is putting him down when he sleeps. && then trying to put him in his bouncy seat when he's awake. Then when he starts to cry I pick him up. Once he gets a little older he won't want you as much. CIO is so harmful to babies.

@chasingjaedyn_est0916, no need to feel bad. Families can often give inaccurate information. I don't know how links work on here but this is a good one. https://www.sleepingbaby.com/blogs/news/18516269-5-tips-to-help-your-baby-learn-to-self-soothe-and-s

Don't feel horrible. People will try to tell you how to raise your own child but at the end of the day you're his mama and you know what he needs. He needs your loving, not to be put down in fear of spoiling him with too much love😊. This is the perfect time to hold him as much as you can. They won't be this small forever.

No baby girl. Don't let them tell you that. I had a nurse tell me to put my son down the same day I had him because he shouldn't be "spoiled". Love on your child however you want! He's crying because he's a baby and you're his comfort. That's an honor.

@woahmama, @bonniesue @sarahdrew @jesjeslovesyou wel now i feel horrible and and holding him close ... my whole family is telling me im holding him too much, and thats why he cries so much ...

he's not ready yet maybe 21/2 -3 months ... he is still fresh out the womb. give him time to build personality.

I agree with @jesjeslovesyou he's too young for that, you can't spoil a baby.... they don't learn to manipulate you (the words my kids dr used) until 6 months or older..... he spent 9ish months inside you, he still isn't used to being in the big scary world

Completely agree with @jesjeslovesyou . A one month old baby cannot and is not spoiled. There's many techniques you can use to soothe your child. Eventually your child will be old enough. Take everything one day at a time.

He's only one month. He's still new to the world and hardly has the mental ability to self soothe. He'll get it in time but for now he needs you to soothe him.