Ladies I have a question.
I live in jersey w my boyfriend and son. He is our first child. When I met my boyfriend I left everything I had back in Delaware and came to start over with him here in jersey. We been together for. Only a year. He wants to move to Long Island with his family once our lease is up in February because he doesn't want to be alone in jersey anymore. I get it, but i don't want to be that far from my family either because they help me with the baby.. his family does not. They don't even call to check on the baby and have only seen him one time. I'm pretty much a outcast because I'm the only rican. My boyfriend is 100% Dominican I'm talking bout born and raised in DR.
He wants me to just follow him to L I but I know we won't be able to afford being in our own place and I don't want to move in with no one. I like my privacy. He told me if I don't want to go then I should go back to my moms house.. should I follow him and hope for the best or just go back to my moms house because I know for a fact we can't afford living out there... 😔
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@mashaflor, according to him I could get a job As a CMA. But what he don't realize is that it don't pay as much as he think.
I live in L.I it's crazy expensive trust me!! you better off where u are right now mama!! @sharondeshonta
He probably wants to go to his family no matter what. But since you pay the bills. When you move where will you work then?
@mashaflor, that's what I told him. We are a new family. And we can't be living with other people... but he swears we could make it in Long Island. And we can't. I make the most income, i pay most of the bills so I know we can't. And I tried to make him see that.. but to him we can. He swears we gunna find a two bedroom apartment for 1500 utilities and cable included. 😑
Yeah.... It is a little irresponsible to tell you to go to your mom. You are family with him. As @jjepb said, you can always return home. But it would be better for both of you to start smth new together, not living with his family
@jjepb, we have more than once.. and it starts off with them saying hi. And then like 10 mins later they all in their groups and I'm just in the corner alone. Pretty much we have nothing to talk about because they think they know everything and I don't like that. I mean we have had our disagreements lately but i didn't think it was that bad that I would even have to make a decision like that.. like he does not want to move anywhere else but to Long Island with his family.
Maybe you could go for a visit and see if you make connections with his family. It's important to have a support system & it really does take a village to raise a child. It really depends where your relationship is with him.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Trigger. Lost baby
Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
So my boyfriend just said he don't want to be with because his mom doesn't like me !
My boyfriend is so upset that I didn’t give our son his last name but I have 4 other kids that has my last name I didn’t want to make him the only one with a different last name. Is that selfish of me? Or should he just understand. We not married
@mamabearx2, that's what I keep telling him. But his response is i don't want to be in jersey alone. I want to go to LI because it's where my family is.