LADIES. I just want opinions on my current situation. If your man ignored you for over a week (I'm…

Do you guys live together and he hasn't been home? Did you guys argue before he stopped responding? Idk call his friends or parents first

Leave his ass. There is no excise for that unless he's military

I think it depends. is he doing it for a reason, like you two are fighting? do you know where he is or have you seen him in person? after a week I would honestly probably get fed up with it.

leave him treat him as he is you you don't need that

is he into drugs that could make him this way but that ain't right fit him to ignore you like that

@ciaramarie, we weren't fighting no. He has been staying at his dad's house cause we'd been staying at my parents house while we looked for a new place but my dad doesn't really like him so he had him leave. Last I heard from him he said he would be over in a couple hours then I never heard from him again. That was over a week ago. We had been going through a rough patch since we weren't with each other all the time but we weren't in an argument or anything and I can't think of anything that I did or said that made him want to ignore me. @yungbae I talked to his dad. He's fine, not dead or in jail or something so he has no excuse.

@housfullofgrls nope he's not military

That's just not nice. You have a baby together and he hasn't even checked on the baby? How immature. I'm sorry you're dealing with that

wow. yeah I wouldn't put up with that. he's basically saying that he doesn't care about his child. hasn't even called/texted to check on baby..i would move on. I know it's difficult but it sounds like he has no reason to be ignoring you.I hope things get better.

As an adult with a child, he has no excuses. You can't just check out like that. Honestly, I would have to have a talk with him about expectations and respect. @emkasting

I would if he would text me tf back! @withlovedkj

He hasn't asked about Oakley at all. Not once. That's what's making me so incredibly pissed @ciaramarie

Do you know his location? I would definitely meet him face to face to talk since he's not answering. @emkasting You don't deserve being ignored, especially if your child is with you. Anything could happen and he's ignoring you.

@withlovedkj I know he's staying at his dad's

First I would file a court order for full custody even though you have the baby with you. If he's on the birth certificate he has rights at least in KY that's true so I would make sure that he doesn't decide to do anything stupid regarding the child then I would go to his parents and try to talk to him. If he doesn't talk to you I would never look back! In my experience that type of behavior is usually due to them seeing someone else. Sorry you are having to deal with this. He sounds immature!

I want to get full custody since he's not bothering to be a part of his life at all. How hard will that be, do you know? And I want to get Oakley's last name changed to mine.

@ella1007,

Shouldn't be hard at all especially since he's had no contact. That's abandonment

How long does he have to have no contact for it to be considered abandonment ? @ella1007

you need to go talk to a lawyer. I know it can be scary at first but it's the best thing to do right now before something worse happens. You need it to be put in writing that you are the primary custodial parent so he can't come take Oakley away forever.

I can't afford a lawyer though, so what else can I do? Could he really try to take Oakley away? He doesn't have a job now or his own place..I mean neither do I but I'm the one that has all the baby stuff and besides that he's staying with his drug addict father @goodbyelullabye

We have something called Legal Aid West Virginia here. They will get you a lawyer for free usually if you can't afford one. They might have something in Indiana similar to that. Most lawyers do free consultations. So you could call around and see which ones do. some will even take payments. the baby is more attached to you right now so I doubt he could take Oakley. My husband has put me through Hell. I always expect the worst now. He was trying to get me to take him back in the most awful ways possible. His dad's drug use is definitely a plus for your side. Sorry if I'm scaring you. I hate that you're going through this. @emkasting

No you're not scaring me, this is stuff I need to know. I really don't want to take away his rights but I don't want him to be able to walk in and out of Oakley's life whenever things get a little rough. @goodbyelullabye I'll have to find out if Indiana has something like that though. I studied pre law here and never heard of something like that but I'm sure something like it exists. We've been together for so long I'm just having a hard time accepting this that's all.

I think it's 30 days but you can go file with your local child support office at the county attorney. Or they can at least direct you. Here in ky you can file an emergency custody order so you can have immediate custody without going to court