How do you know if you are dilated? Does your water have to break so you can be dilated? I'm 38 weeks and I still don't feel labor stuff lol

I'm not dilated at all. My cervix is soft...that's it he couldn't even feel the baby's head. I'm so disappointed I could cry.. Over it... Fucking over it.

Question- I'm 37 weeks so I go weekly to the doctor now. I went last Thursday and was 3-4cm dilated and 50% effaced. My next appointment is supposed to be this Thursday but I want to go in today because I'm concerned I might be leaking & I feel like I'm more dilated. So how would I schedule that appointment? Just call and say that?

I been walking this week so hopefully Monday I've dilated some!

3 centimeters dilated so far & they are keeping me. I'm in so much pain! Omg.😭😭😭