i know its up to me what i want to do where my relationship is concerned but can i just get some advice on what to…

thanks ladies! i think im gunna take a little bit of time to think about it and im gunna tell him hes gotta show me hes changed before we get back together as i dont want to get back with him and its the same and i have to end it with him again so im gunna see how he acts now if he doesnt do anything to prove hes changed then im not even gunna try with him xx

I haven't read everyone's comments but my advise is this. I don't know why you've broken up with him. But if you think he deserves a second chance & you want to try again, just remember actions speak louder than words. What he does when your back together will show you if he's changed & willing to work at your relationship. He can tell you he loves you, he will do this & that all he wants but unless you start to see it, it means jack! Tell him that as well. But at the same time if you need space to think about what's best for you & your baby then take the time. Don't let his crocodile tears push you into making any rash decisions.

@danielleallen110 I never felt wanted or appreciated either...since he would spend the whole weekend on his phone etc when we were supposed to be spending time together..Its not like we saw each other everyday!...and if we were with each other everyday..I wouldn't mind it if he was on his phone etc...But it was just plain rude..and he refused to do anything to help me with our daughter (bath etc) I just had enough of it! I actually despised him whenever he was around...it just wasnt a healthy relationship! So I had to put an end to it. My bf begged for me too...it did feel quite good actually. But being serious is the only way to get them to change :) Well putting all thats happened behind you is a good start hun to refresh...as the present and future should matter more. I told him exactly what I wanted to happen..and said we cant try to be together unless I see him trying more with helping me....because I was planning to have more kids with him..there's no way I would want a repeat of what happened. Asking for your partners support isnt much! So yeah...he has made improvements...it actually feels like when we first starting going out. It is relaxing! I asked my mum if she could have my daughter for the day (this weekend) while I go out with him.....as I haven't gone out alone with him since giving birth.

( Maya is almost 8 months) I think we just need some time to ourselves for a bit to talk properly! Be honest with how you feel hun! Men are a bit clueless but get it eventually! xxx

hey, sometime it takes us to make a drastic decision and to walk away for the males to realise what us females are worth to them.. it takes a man to cry and show his feeling the way he did, yes u have ur reasons for breaking up with him becuz he wasnt there for u and does he understand how hard it was for u daily without his passion, love, help and courage? has he realised his faults? if he has then maybe give things ago and patch up where the problems are and take it day by day but make him understand what his part in the relationship must uphold for both ur happiness and ur childs.. i hope u can mend ur broken heart with him and work at bein a team xx

the same reasons i left my OH as your reasons hun, i also never felt wanted or appreciated on top of that, i dont want to sound horrible but it felt nice when he cried for me and begged me not to leave him and told me all those nice things what he thought about me etc as it made me feel wanted at that moment that he actually wanted me, i didnt cave in though i stuck to my word but i really need him and want him more than anything, the worst part is that i dont have any of my own family either as my mum and dad abandoned me from 6 months old and none of the other family want to know me, how did you freshen it up, can you recxomend anything babe? xxx @winterbaby95

Hey hun, I don't know the reason why you broke up but it must've been a good reason for it to happen. I would just think things over and over again. I recently broke up with my partner for a whole lot of reasons...selfishness...laziness...not appreciating anything I do for him... He just wasnt being fair when it came to doing things to help me. And he only came on the weekend to see us...so its not like I was asking a lot. So I had a think about it...he wanted us to get back together. We have agreed to put everything behind us...anyway last weekend he made a lot of improvement so I was happy. We are still working on being together...but I think our relationship did need a bit of refreshing xxx