he doesnt watch porn anymore. not since we got married. he knows i dont like it and respects it.

@geekymomma13, We have talked about. He down plays it and says that he was just messing around. But I'm not sure I believe that. I think he was watching it for longer but I can't prove it. I do think he is a little embarrassed about it. At this point I have more questions than answers and I don't think he is willing to answer them all. But we will see. It might be all we talk about today.

@breee87, I know how you feel, I felt like I wasn't good enough and still do. you should sit him down and talk about it, even if he finds it embarrassing. tell him to be honest and express how you feel about it. I tried to do this but my man just starts yelling and practically throwing a tantrum like a 5 yr old. if yours is willing to communicate and respect your wishes that he not do so again than I think it will help you get over bad feelings and worry about it, even if it wasnt his first time. I think a huge reason why it bugs me still is because he refuses to stop and says its "normal"

@geekymomma13, I don't know if I believe him. I just honestly don't know how to feel or what to think. Maybe it's just all to fresh. Maybe he won't do it again. But there will always be that little something in the back of my mind asking questions. I literally feel like he cheated on me.

@breee87, I caught my fiance on his phone. girl I reacted the same way! at least yours feels bad about it and probly won't do it again. mine says that all men do it and he refuses to stop. I know as soon as I am out the door, its the first thing he does, and he knows I how I feel. thing is is that we have sex all the time, even when I don't want too. Your man seems sincerely sorry and didn't know how you felt about it, so don't think to much about it.

We watched it together for the first time a few months ago and idk why but I kinda liked it. He never watches it so luckily I don't have to worry, I'm with him 24/7 and he doesn't take his phone to the bathroom so I'm a lucky girl, but if he was choking his chicken behind my back oh hell no, I am not okay with that at all 🙅🏽 but unlike some people I am always willing to have sex with him or give him head/hand job, I might give him a pass during the time I'm healing.

You're welcome Hun! I hope you start feeling better soon. Don't beat yourself up over it, it's not your fault at all! Men don't always think about what they're doing, I'm sure he is sorry!

@tiffanyxomarie1, Thank you so much! It really helps when someone can relate to your feelings.

I don't think you're over thinking it, that's exactly how I was feeling, pregnant at the time also and now that I have stretch marks from having our son I'm super self conscious, I feel like I'm not good enough for him on a daily basis so seeing that he was watching porn just added on to it. I wasn't going to let it ruin our marriage but I definitely was extremely beside myself & didn't understand what I was doing wrong to make him want to watch it!

@tiffanyxomarie1, Am I thinking about this too much? Are these some of the things you felt? Am I overreacting? Do you think it's just because I am pregnant and hormonal?

How will I know that the next time we are making love that I am the one really turning him on? I mean will he be thinking about the porn he watched to help him get off?

@tiffanyxomarie1, We did talk about. I think he does feel bad about it. I am more mad at my self. I feel like a let down, like I'm not good enough. Like I can't please him the way he wants to be pleased. I feel like I it's my fault that he had to turn to porn. I am 35 weeks and have gotten to point of being super uncomfortable. I would rather be uncomfortable and just go ahead and have sex than for him to get off to porn. How long will porn work before he finds another woman? What if I'm never good enough anymore? Maybe I'm not skinny enough, or maybe I need bigger boobs? What's wrong with me? I just want to quit crying. I just want to feel like I'm enough.

But when I finally did bring it up, I knew he felt really bad, he kept asking if I was going to leave him and apologizing, he even ended up crying and my husband is not a cryer or one to really show emotion. Hopefully your hubby will understand how you're feeling if you guys do talk about it!

Awh I'm so sorry! No one deserves to feel that way, I actually found out my husband was doing it right before he left for a month (he's in the military) I had to use his phone for a flashlight after he fell asleep and of course, I got curious, I was so upset, I stayed up all night crying as well and didn't even mention it to him until after he had already left because I didn't want our last memory together before he left to be fighting or having a disagreement.

I am literally having horrible thoughts right now. And my brain just won't stop.

@tiffanyxomarie1, This happened at around 12:30 a.m, I am still crying about it. I even got out of bed and came into my daughters room to sleep (as you can tell I haven't went to sleep yet).

That's exactly how I felt too, so of course I started crying when I found out about it, I guess they don't really see it that way, but to me it's kind of a form of cheating, I don't want my husband to feel like he has to look at other women or "please" himself.

He says this is the first time. I don't know if I believe that. I feel like it's my fault that he feels like he needs to watch that kinda stuff. I feel unworthy and like I'm not good enough.

Oh gosh I'm sorry girl! My husband didn't know how I felt about it and I found out he was watching it one day going through his phone, I tried to keep my cool because we had never discussed it before, basically told him I didn't like it and felt like it was disrespectful to me and we haven't had a problem since! If you guys haven't mentioned it before, maybe your hubby doesn't know how you feel about it either and will hopefully understand it bothers you if you bring it up!

@tiffanyxomarie1, I also feel like it's degrading. I feel like the next step is him actually wanting another woman. I didn't know that he was watching it until tonight. I went to bed early and I woke up to use the bathroom and realized he wasn't in bed. I figured he fell asleep watching T.V in the living room, so I went to check on him. When I opened the bedroom door there was a huge set of boobs on the T.V and I guess he heard the door open because he paused the TV and then quickly turned the TV off!

It's a big no for me, I feel like it's degrading and why would I want my husband watching other women? Everyone has different opinions though. Luckily my husband respects my wishes and doesn't watch it.

💯💯 same in my relationship @ainsleighsmumma

We both watch it, together or separately, I understand that he needs a release and I'm not always going to give it to him, I have no sex drive while pregnant, and I would rather him use his hand and a video than someone else. It's normal in our relationship.