exactly @daniluvsdis naturally id want my mam there and i have been very considerate of his mam throughout too so its his own fault xx

@deedee1988, if your not bothered about the 4d it's him that's gonna miss out over his childishness!!xx

exactly @daniluvsdis iv just said that now an hes not answered me yet, im betting that hes realised hes been a dick and that im serious but is too stubborn to admit hes wrong xx

@deedee1988, I would just tell him either both mothers come or you won't have the scan! If there's no you, there's no scan! Xx

thanks hun @mother_of_humans xx

I'd cancel the 4d scan and tell him it's both parents or non! if my hubby threw this ultimatum at me he would be out that door! but my mil is involved in all the pregnancy and I wouldn't have it any other way tbh. p.s did you find out what your having? xx

both sets of parents should go and to be honest, your mum is obviously closer to you, than his mum, so out of anyone, woulnt you need your mun there the most. is he not accepting your feelings? tell him, they either both go or no one goes and let him throw his toys out the pram, he's just being selfish and childish. Men eh, can't live with them but can't live without them either 😂 xx

@emmaelaine, i would if that was an option hun x

Personally I'd just invite both sets of parents to the 4D scan. It's private so you can have more people there. That way no one is left out and you can relax xx

i know @apunini @sara-lou hes just so selfish since we found out we were expecting, honestly cant believe how much of a dick hes turned into. theres just no budging him and right now i honestly dont feel like i even want his selfish assessment at the birth x

Well if he's like this all the time I would leave him. He's being a dick. But he will only continue to be a dick if you let him. Stand your ground & don't let him push you around. (Metaphorically)

u need to put that man in the right place then! tell him your going to be a FAMILY he needs to change the way he sees things. he needs to act like an adult !!! tell him that. this are the things i cant deal with. i'd threatened to leave him if he ever said anything like that but well im very hormonal anyway. i hope u can sort things out xxx

thanks ladies, but thats my point @apunini ive been understanding and suggested both our mams go but thats not even an option for him. hes said just his mam or no scan at all. hes the only one not being understanding. told me he doesnt care whether my mam sees or has anything to do with the baby as long as his mum does! i didnt even want a 4d scan in the first place so im already compromising yet again its all his way or no way at all. @sara-lou hes being really immature and i actually dont think hes being fair on me at all, when baby is here he expects me to drive every other day for his mam to see her but has basically said he expects my mam to walk to see her. hes being a bellend girls and im very close to leaving

im sure if u have a private scan u can have as many people as you want hun. i'd advise u to try and understand him aswell. its always nice to have a good relationship with the whole family specially for your baby. i mean its his mom. wouldn u be sad if u couldnt go for your sons/daughters scan?.. just try and be understanding u both should. maybe call the company and ask how many people are allowed in the room. and if there isnt many allowed u can always try an book it in another. ps: window to the womb allows as many people as u want. xx

If he says no scan at all (to try and blackmail you) say fine. Be childish but then his mum will miss out as well.

Excuse me but who made him King of decisions? @deedee1988 anything is an option because your both adults in an adult relationship & that's how it works. Tell him your mum is coming along & they can do 15mins each. That is fair. Don't let him walk all over you.

suppose we could but thats not even an option for him. hes said just his mam or no scan at all as my mam had her chance apparently.

i did, and that just ended up in a blazing argument, hes all for his family and naturally im all for my mam being involved. i cant help how his sister in law treated their mum but surely my mum shouldnt be forced to miss out because of it. the 4d scan is 30 mins long that his mum will see baby moving etc that would have been ok if they had let my mam in for the last one like we thought but she literally walked in they said it was a girl and we left, baby wasnt even visible to her on a screen, im so annoyed with him its unreal. hes even as pety as posting presents off his family to facebook and thanking them etc but refuses to do it with my mam. grrrr 👿

omg no your not over reacting i would have gone mad!!