Julianna
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Julianna·Мама двоих (7 лет, 9 лет)

Mamas... Please take the time to read this and reply as soon as possible as I need some serious help at the moment. I am going crazy at home and need advice.

I just kicked my fiancé of 5 years out the house because this is probably the 5th time he has put his hands on me in a heated argument. He makes me feel like it's my fault for pushing him to that point. He is the father of my 5 month old son.

We generally have a great relationship but it's not the first time where we get in a really heated argument and he tried pushing me again!!!

It's been worse before, he's pinched me tried choking me in the past and like a Fucken idiot I forgave him and moved on. This time I realized I have a Fucken son and I would NEVER want him to do that to a women. When he first tried pushing me I stopped arguing and just told him to get out. Then he started again about how I MAKe him get to that point... I'm so Fucken retarded I'm literally here asking and questioning myself if I did take it too far to Get to that point but the Fucken answer is no!!!!!

No matter what, a guy should NEVER put his hands on you!!! We were in the process of moving to Florida but I'm throwing all of our plans out the window!! I'm so done. I can't keep allowing this to happen. He took everything and left. I will never allow this to happen again. I am worth way too much to allow someone to put their hands on me.

Please give me advice ladies.. What would you do :(

This is going to be so hard... My son LOVES his father!!!! :(

02.09.2016
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mrsr0383
Chelsea Marie·Мама двоих (9 лет, 10 лет)

I'm really really sorry to hear your going through this. Unfortunately it doesn't get any better my ex of 4 years before my current husband and sons father was abusive like this it started out and then got worse first he used to push then it turned into biting other things eventually he would do it in the street also at one point he even slammed my head on the concrete sidewalk the best advice I can tell you is to get out not only for you but your son their is a cycle like Kimberly said ! My ex used to also make me feel like it's my fault I made him get like that I forgave my ex multiple times through our relationship nothing changed. We would have phases like above mentioned honeymoon etc. he would apologize I would be hopeful forget about it till it happened again after he was supposedly going to change he would verbally put me down call me a whore say I wouldn't find better etc etc if you need an ear to listen and someone who understands I'm here I could tell you many stories but for your sons sake I would leave so he doesn't grow up watching that it's part of the reason why I left my ex I knew I didn't want kids with him and didn't want my kids to possibly witness those things god forbid I stayed with him it's toxic for the relationship it's draining for you and you now have a baby to worry about 😰 do what's best for you and the baby !! By no means is this your fault no matter the argument.

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sktraum
Steph·Многодетная мама (5 детей)

I've felt with this since I was 15. I'm now 40. My last marriage was the worst. I stayed for 15 years hoping he would change. He changed alright. It got worse. My mom would sneak by my house to make sure I was still alive. He then began beating my kids. Busting their faces so bad the blood vessels popped in their eyes. They couldn't go to school. Save ur baby. Men like this are unpredictable and they use the excuse that " we push them to that point " just so they don't have to accept responsibility for their actions. I've been yanked out of bed while I slept and thrown down the stairs then dragged back up the stairs by my hair just for not bathing the kids b/c I had a migraine. They will find any excuse to pick fights so they can take their anger out on u. They are narcissist and sociopaths. They never change for the better.

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babygluttony
Christine·Мама дочки (10 лет)

IF you want your son to visit his father you can take him to court, get full custody and make it visitation with supervision. that way someone is there with both of them and if something happens that person can be witness and take your son away and bring to you

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kimborocks93
Kimberly·Мама троих детей

in no way is it your fault he just uses that 2 make himself feel good about what he has done 2 you if he was a true man no matter how mad he gets he will either just walk away and cool off or just drop the subject until both people are calm down and try and talk like adults instead of raising his hand 2 you. I know it's going to be hard but you have us moms on here to talk 2 if you get real down and need someone to talk to. I am sorry you are having to deal with something like this.

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kimberly_preemie-mom
Kimberly ·Мама четверых детей

Find your local women's/live violence free center and see if they can get you into a safe house or a safe place to go while you get the fuck out of there. There's this thing called the cycle of violence where it is like in a honeymoon stage where everything is perfect and as time progresses it gets worse to where the violence happens (whether that's emotional, mental, physical, etc) and when you take them back the honeymoon stage behinds again and it's an awful cycle. You are strong momma. You can get out of the relationship and move on with your life. Don't continue subjecting yourself to his outbursts. It's not your fault. Get out while you can, before your son gets older and figures out what's going on.

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sunflower_noemi
Noemí 🌻 ·Мама двоих (6 лет, 9 лет)

I would kick him out too, not leave. He's the one who should leave. Don't ever allow it again, I have never been in that position and God forbid I ever do, but something I would always do is protect my child. Violence is not the key to solutions and if he done it once he will continue doing so. My child safety comes first and having my kid grow in an unhappy and unsafe environment I rather be a single mom. If he wants to be there as your babies father he will find a way on how too. But not necessarily yall need to be together for him to assume his father duties. I really hope you and your baby are safe and please don't let him back. Never know what else can happend. Best if luck girl and I will definitely have you in my prayers cause I can imagine how hard can this be for you.

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shananaginsx
Shannon 🌺💖·Мама сына (9 лет)

I am so sorry ☹️ and I would do the same exact thing! No matter what you say, that should NOT be what he does. You are making the right choice for you and your son. You don't deserve it and neither does your son. And just because it isn't anything major... The next time it can be worse and really hurt you. Also, since he's done it this many times, chances are he will do it again. Stay strong. ❤️

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mamaofacountryboy
Melinda ·Мама сына (10 лет)

I would leave.! My husband knows no matter how much I love him if he lays a hand me he'll be lucky to be alive when I'm done but we won't be together. He can still see my son inless there's a reason he can't

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