Ladies,
Once you become pregnant and have a baby, your world really does change and sometimes your friends too 👶🏻 What advice do you have for new moms about maintaining their friendships after baby arrives? We're working on a new blog post and would love your feedback. Please reply in the comments below and we'll post them on our new article 🌸
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My boyfriend was my only friend lol before and after.
Reach out to your friends. Old friends new friends just be the one to reach out. Everyone who is meant to be in your and your baby's life will be.
When my "friends" found out I was pregnant, they instantly lost interest in hanging out with me. They recommended that I should get an abortion. Just hearing them say that I refuse to be around them.
I recently got in touch with a friend I had in elementary school. we haven't been in touch in years and as it turns out she is my only true friend. 😕
Hey i kind of didn't want to be their friend! I mean having a child changes you! I have a hard time taking my friends seriously half the time! It's like I have grown into life and they are still doing same thing they did 5 years ago and it's weird. Plus talking to moms is so much more fun!
Aman!!!! I lost my best friend that was like a sister to me after I had my son 😢
I still have 5 childhood friends that have remained my friends thru it all and I was the first to have a baby....we live in different states and we still maintain our friendships.
All my friends have children. :) all in their late 20s early 30s
i had my first at 18 and all my friends left except one. we did things together and had good times. she loved my son. then i got pregnant again right before my firsts 2nd birthday. its been almost a year since that one friend quit talking to me. i like it better without her anyways cause she never REALLY understood the responsibility of a parent..
If they truly care they will be there! I had a lot leave at 24weeks. The 2 that did stay came around to visit me & showed up when I had him. There's really no advice of they are true they will be there. But don't blow them off either make planes with & without baby if you can. I didn't do without baby intill 6/9m old.
Yep. I lost all my friends but tbh I don't care. I'm more worried about having my baby(:
I haven't had my baby yet but have already lost nearly every friend I had growing up when they found out about my pregnancy. I honestly think that with pregnancy/children you find out who is really there for you & who never was. A true friend is not going to drop you because you have other things to worry about in life than partying and drugs. (Which I never was) it's sad to loose friends but you have to realize that you don't want that type of negativity in your life with your child, you need people who are going to support and love you-vice Versa.
Don't sweat the friends that leave your side... Instead focus on those that care enough to be in yours & your baby's life. The best friends are those who are also moms since they understand the whole mom thing.
Try to find balance between mom friends and friends that don't have kids. It's nice to have mom friends for play dates and sleepovers and such but let's be real, it's also nice to have friends that don't have kids that you can go to lunch or get your nails done or see a movie with and not have your kid(s) with you or only talk about kids. Especially if you're a younger mom. You may not be going out clubbing with them on the weekends but at least it's someone that you can unwind away from mom duties with.
Real friends don't change. If they do, they weren't your friends to begin with. I was the first of my friends to have a baby, and they are still my friends.
Try to find a mom bestie with a baby close in age to yours. Those friends will be your tribe when you can't do long nights out or spontaneous vacations.Solidarity reigns, because these will be the relationships requiring the least work. I'm forever grateful for all my mommy buddies but @theinkedmommy is my go to for baby advice because our kids were literally born on the same day, minutes apart!!! Even when neither of us has the answer, it is amazing to have someone who is going thru things right along with me.
My son was colicky which was hard enough. We lost a lot of friends but found out who the true friends are. I was friends with this one girl who was "always busy" for the first 6 months of my son's life. He is now 17 months old and she lives a mile away and has never met him. I gave up a long time ago. Also, my sister in law lives 4 blocks away and barely knows her nephew. I don't even bother with people like that anymore.