Ladies I've got a traumatic lesson to be learned.My friend just got her little boy back after him living with his father for two years in another state...yall know the story of couples splitting cause one parent is not doing their job taking care of their kids.. while the other slaves away doing it on their own.. well this is my friends story...after the split....meanwhile she had to get established with a home for him in a new state!! The obedient little guy she knew before is now a hyperactive 7year old...she was wondering how he changed so drastically after only two years! It seems he's adopted his father's personality and ladies this man is not a great dad by far..hes suicidal,erratic,unpredictable,temperamental,selfish and he spent their entire eight year relationship playing computer games and ignored his kid and denied fact his first born wasn't a Girl since birth ! But she was noble, unselfish enough to let her son be with him for the time being so he could form a relationship with this estrange father that has been absent even when present in his life since day he was born. He was so quick to get him outta his hair so he could live his life responsibility free ..when the time came for him to be with his mom for good....so they flew him to be with her. She realized not only did his whole demeanor change..so did his appearance..his nails on his hands and toenails never got clipped and had dirt under them..ear wax formed in his ears for God knows how long. His hair not properly cut and he looked malnourished! Smh and this is why mothers are needed in a child's life..his father and his gramma let him run around with absolutely no discipline and now the child screams and throws fits..that we are convinced he adopted from his angry irrational father. Ladies not all men are this way...and some mom's out there are like this too...a person who's quick to give up there own..wants absolutely nothing to do with their own kid;in my eyes their not human!! We are just glad it was only two years..but that's two years she needs to correct the behaviour her son adopted...and show him the love he lacked living with his dad! The lesson here is as mom's we play an important role and fathers do too! Our kids learn from example all the things we say and do by an early age..so please parents be good to each other and if you fight take it somewhere where your kids don't hear it😥I cannot stress this enough...cause it caused irrevocable mental,emotional damage to a child and in less than a couple months or years that past by..that kid will remember and learn to have resentment towards a parent. Some kids are not emotionally strong enough and some are able to handle parents splitting up. In my friends case her little boy has done a day to night change with only living with his dad for two years😑it breaks my heart to see him like this. He has been an obedient good child since birth to five years old..now she barely recognize him!