What would you do if you were engaged with a guy and one if his close friends told you that your fiance had been with men before? Would you still marry the guy or would you leave?
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Please notice that I said that after TWO comments of people saying no. My comment was in response to ONE of those. So my original comment wasn't aimed at you, or all the other replying to me. It was in fact aimed at one persons response who comes off as very close minded. I'm not trying to fight about this because this is one of those dumb topics that no one will ever change their mind about. Just keep in mind, if he didn't tell you it's probably because he was terrified that something like this would happen. Bisexuals, gays, trans, and even asexuals are judged and beat down all the time. Not everyone deals with it properly but we all do the best we can. Is it crappy he didn't tell you? Ish. It's his past and doesn't really matter. But I honestly wouldn't make a choice myself unless I had sat down and had a good talk about it. I still don't think it would bother me though since it was in the past, and he's picking you. No one else. YOU.
@autumneve I never said you don't have a right to your opinion. I don't agree with it but that's okay people dont always agree. the only thing I didnt like that you said we are not open minded because we wouldn't date a bisexual man and we are against gays because we don't feel how you feel
@sunflowerchild, actually I can be upset and frustrated because those are feelings. Am I judging anyone for feeling that way? No. I'm not. I'm stating that I cannot for the life of me understand it but I'm judging no one. It's hilarious that all of you think you have a right to your opinion, but I don't have a right to mine.
@autumneve, you can't be open minded and be upset/frustrated that someone has different views than you..
This is still all hearsay. His friend could be punking you for all its worth. If I found out the my man had a history with another man, I'd want a good honest talk about it but it wouldn't prevent me from marrying him. He's still choosing me. He's still marrying me. Obviously things are working and we are pleasing each other as needed. I honestly don't see the problem anyone else has!? The only thing I can think of is that his dick has been up a dudes ass and a dick has been up his ass. But even that doesn't bother me so maybe I'm just really really openminded.
@autumneve okay if that's discrimination then we all discriminate all the time. some people only want to date their own race. doesn't mean they are racist. some people only wanna date tall built men doesn't mean they are against short skinny people. so basically we all discriminate and we all have our preferences so whom we will and will not date so what makes sexuality so different from the rest? it doesn't
Very true but at the end of the say I think it boils down to the sex.... A guy can still please a female... But if a guy like anal then it very hard for a female To please him and reach his spot.. So there for he will more than likely stray away and seek a man... And I only say this bc I have a lot of gay male friends and a brother that is gay and they all say they same thing... And I see how most of them have married men that they sleep with on the down low.... It's just risky to me bc a lot don't see the risk of sleeping w both and spreading hiv... They don't use protection bc of course you can't get another guy pregnant but too often are bring a back std to their wife...
What in the world people. It's discrimination. Hands down. Love is love. And sex is sex. No matter who the gender is. Doesn't it sound stupid "I couldn't marry her because she's slept with men!" Like..what!? What is the dang difference! I think it's sad how closed off people can be. And I'm kinda pissed because this is all hearsay. He didn't even say it, a friend did. This is all wrong in so many ways. I'd be really upset if someone who claimed to not judge gays wouldn't marry me because I've been with a women. I can't even deal with this post right now, it's so frustrating.
@korasia and its sad to say but it is one sided. it's okay for men to date bisexual women but its looked down upon when a man is bisexual
Oh no bc once that is what a guy likes there isn't anything you can do to please him.... I love gay people I'm just being 100% honest with you...
Sorry but i couldnt.. and im not againt gay i support 1000%..
Definitely couldn't do it. And no I'm not against gays smh
@autumneve just because a female doesn't want to be with a man that's bisexual doesn't mean they are "against gays". I have bisexual female friends and all and I would be friends with a man that's gay but I would not be involved with a bisexual man !! no thanks cudos to you if that's what you wanna do..I don't judge but that's not my preference. @sweetnicole @mrsschmalz I agree with you. I just couldn't
As long as he's attracted to you I don't see why it matters honestly. I'm bisexual and I know I'm much happier in a long term relationship with one person, it doesn't matter that I'm attracted to both genders because ultimately I just want to be with one person for the rest of my life. If that's how he feels about you then you have nothing to worry about. But if that's not how he feels, that's a red flag whether he wants to be with other guys or other girls or whatever, the gender doesn't make a difference, the commitment level does. Talk to him about it and ask him how he feels.
Didn't know so many people here were against gays..wow. It wouldn't bother me that he'd been with a man. It'd bother me that he didn't tell me.
I'd still marry him. The past doesn't mean anything at all to me.
Oh I couldn't do it! There's no way in hell I could live with sleeping with a man that has slept with a man before 🚫
Wouldn't bother me unless he was currently cheating, I would definitely have a talk with him to figure out where his head was at but I'm also bisexual so it just comes down to honesty
@autumneve well we aren't fighting. I'm not upset are you? its just a hypothetical question anyway. I'm definitely not dealing with something like this or know of someone who is.. and damn right he better be scared cuz I'd leave and that's the end of that story!