tmi but i really need somebody to talk to about this. me and my fiancé have been together for almost…
tmi but i really need somebody to talk to about this. me and my fiancé have been together for almost three years now. im almost done being pregnant & have zero sex drive. i could give a shit less about having sex but i was also like this before i got pregnant too. it isn't him. i just don't have a care for it. idk if this is some mental block or what but it's starting to effect our relationship. he just tried having sex with me & I had to push him off me & tell him multiple times no. & he gets disappointed & asks why. idk what it is but having sex right now is so uncomfortable and painful and just flat out awkward and weird when you're pregnant. I feel like I'm just pushing him away. we'll have sex maybe once every two weeks & that's so he'll shut up about it. i can't remember the last time i had an orgasm. it's fcking weird to me when there's a baby inside me. My mom keeps saying he's going to leave me & that this isn't normal behavior & that we need to have sex for the relationship to not fall apart and i don't agree with that. i just don't know what to do... I'm balling my eyes out now & he left to go into the other room after we talked about everything. I feel like a piece of shit.
Jessie·
Мама двоих (4 года, 6 лет), ждёт третьего
If sex isn't your thing he should be respectful of that. There are many things he can do to satisfy his urges (without cheating obviously), my boyfriend is the same way, but I don't mind. He needs to take your feelings into consideration. It's not all about him. He needs to grow up.
Jody Melgar·
I messaged you
Heather ·
im so sorry hun, maybe couples counseling will help you both in different ways, he needs to be understanding but also it seems like your view goes beyond just being pregnant and not being interested i hope you 2 can come to agreement on something
Esmeralda·
В ожидании первенца
I agree with @wethreepeas but i understand where you are coming from with having a super low sex drive it happens to most of us i hardly ever want it anymore and before pregnancy i wanted it regularly but now it a diff story lol hubby understands tho maybe you and your man need a little counseling talk it out.
Heather ·
thanks @esmeg93 for your support, honestly counseling is not a bad thing may open his eyes more then you think. could save your relationship, but at the same time dont be ashamed of a low sex drive thats ok and there needs to be some compromise from both partners not just you and not just him
Esmeralda·
В ожидании первенца
@wethreepeas, welcome!:) i agree completely compromise is needed from both👍🏽 good luck girls😊
Michelle Valdez·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
I'm like that too. even before pregnancy sex just doesn't really matter to me much. and now it is painful. I do it to make him happy and so hopefully he won't go elsewhere but ugh, I'm kinda looking forward to the 6 weeks postpartum with no sex! lbvs!! I don't have any advice I just wanted you to know you're not alone! :)
Felicia·
it probably has to do with your past, does he know about that?
Felicia·
@katietay34,