@tinyram09 thank you so much. I've smacked him a little before and I just feel bad, sometimes he even laughs when I do it so I thought it wasn't working. It's not till I hit him a little hard that he cries and puts his head on my shoulder he almost looks like he's ashamed. It just hurts me as a first time mommy to see him cry because I hit him but I know I gotta discipline him

he's 1 years old hun in my opinion it is absolutely 100% fine to pop his hand or butt!! and to tell him no with a lot of authority in your voice!! so that way he will understand it's not ok .i wouldnt like pop him super hard or anything but you've got to teach him young that it's not ok to hit or kick mommy or anyone else.. my oldest son is 7 years old now but when he was around 1-2 he used to do the same thing he would hit and kick and scream at me and I used to pop him.. it didn't take very many times of me popping him on his hands or butt and telling him no with that authority in my voice for him to Learn that it absolutely wasn't ok and that it absolutely 100‰ would not be tolerated for him to treat mommy like that!! it used to make me feel so bad and like I was literally the absolute WORST mom ever and I would often cry about it.. but in the end it made me a better mom and it made him a much better well behaved little boy!! you don't have to listen to me or even take my advice.. you do what makes YOU feel comfortable he is your child and you are his mom! at the end of the day trust your judgment.. only YOU know what is best for you and your son!! I hope I helped atleast a little bit by sharing my experience with you.. amd if you ever want to talk or vent please feel free to message me ANYTIME!!