Told everyone I didn't want to be left alone tonight and there's a very obvious reason, me and summer didn't get to bond…

Off course your not failing her babe. Breast feeding isn't easy at the start and bows the time to seek the most support, we are only human!!

hun. if u relax that will help.. she may know your feeling stressed that's y she won't settle... I was exactly the same with my first born... took a little while but I got there.. she loves u already hun.. your milk won't be in yet. it takes a few days. I bet she's a hungry baby too... I had to formula Arlo for the first 3 days.. as soon as I did he settled straight away.. my milk came in now I mainly breast feed.. mine were incredibly sore still are now, lanolin cream will help.. and safe for baby xx

They shouldn't keep you in Hun unless it's medical if you feel ready to go home you can discharge yourself but you'll have to sign a form saying if anything happens they'll not be at fault, breastfeeding is hard for the first few days until you get into the swing of things first day was amazing for me then second day we struggled to get him to match and I was so tired and sore and upset but I didn't want to call midwifes or to back to hospital so I found if Tom helped it would work if your OH is with you maybe ask him to move your nipple around under his nose and when he's ready to him then push his head in a bit that seemed to work for us I know it's hard and your in so much pain but if you really want to BF don't give up too soon but if your happy to just do what's best for you both xxx

@daisysmummy, is right the midwifes are there to help. They will help latch summer on properly and once she feeds properly she should settle. Also as you can't get up and move around that is probably also a reason summer won't settle as babies like movement and rocking you are not failing her having a newborn is very difficult and being in hospital with a newborn is even more difficult. I wish I could be with you to comfort you but all I can do is tell you it will get easier. Sending big hugs. I take it your OH wasn't able/ allowed to stay? Xx

@briony1994, you aren't failing her Hun. After everything you went through giving birth to her, you understandably will feel like you do. I had minor issues when I had my little boy (nothing on your scale) but I didn't get to bond straight away which was why I chose to bottle feed. Don't ever be afraid to ask for help, that's what midwives are there for. Don't feel like they are judging you because you are trying to do your best by your little girl even if it's hard. They shouldn't keep you in any longer than necessary. Here if you need a chat xxx p.s I had stitches, I know the pain you feel. It'll take a couple of days to get moving again but don't worry too much, take whatever painkiller you can to numb the pain x

They'll only keep you in if they have to :) I'm sure they get it a lot! You're exhausted and need to sleep! You'll cope a lot better once you've had a bit of sleep :) it makes me laugh that I use to say I was scared to have Daisy on my own because I do all the night feeds completely alone because my OH is on medication and doesn't wake up to her and due to his back I do everything for her 90% of the time during the day as well! 😂 we're mums, we learn to cope when no one else can xx

I'm scared that if I tell them I'm not coping then they will keep me in another night :( @daisysmummy xxx

Get a midwife and tell them that you feel like you aren't coping, tell them that your nipples hurt and that she isn't latching on, they won't judge you :) when Daisy was a week old I had to spend two nights with her alone on the rainbow ward and I was terrified because I had never been alone with her before! I had nurses on standby all night haha