Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Make your own breakfast! At what age do you think a child should be making their own breakfast? I have a 10 year old and I think he is perfectly capable of making himself breakfast. It doesn't take rocket science to put some waffles into the toaster, or microwave some pancakes. My husband insists that he needs to have breakfast made for him because if we left it up to him he wouldn't eat enough and it would take him forever.
I just got a called back from doctor I had a chemical pregnancy. So now I have to wait till my boyfriend gets home (early in the morning) and break the news to him. How do you break something like this to your boyfriend that wants a big family. That he won't blame himself and hate himself. I just can't bare to break his heart. He really want this, I told him if we do have another kid by my 21st birthday I will put off getting my tubes tied. I've talked to my doctor about doing it.
So over this feeling! Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The thing that bothered me was no matter what I said regarding ds I wasn't listened to. I told my mother to sit behind ds if she was going to sit him up on the floor as he hasn't got the whole balance thing down pact but she didn't and then ds falls and starts crying cause he hurt himself, I picked him up and my mother just came and took him off me! I told her he can't forward face yet as he is below the shoulder line in order to forward face but they did anyway. I get it's her first grandchild and she's excited but I never got to share the news about ds's first tooth or his first attempt at crawling to the family because she already done it. Yes I know, I probably sound petty asf! I had to repeatedly ask my mother to take me and ds home as he was tired and close to the over tired stage. On the way home ds fell asleep, luckily I was sitting beside him and looked at him cause he had fallen asleep and had his head facing down so I quickly grabbed his head and held it up till we got home.
Am I wrong for telling my Bd that because we not Married my baby don't have to have his last name? He really got mad and told me I was project n ignorant. Crazy part is I was thinking about giving my baby his middle and last name
Tana·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)
@klutzy, lol. I guess I will just have to learn to deal with it. I just wish we could be on the same page but maybe it isn't worth fighting over. Thanks!
Carrie·
Мама сына (7 лет), беременна (22 нед.)
That's how my husband was with his now almost 8yo son. He's always babied him to the point where idk if he still wipes his son's butt after pooping to make sure he got it all. At least now he dresses himself and brushes his teeth on his own. Baby steps lol
Tana·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)
@emmajeremy2627, we've gotten in disagreements about this same type of thing before. He just says he'll learn later but my point of view is if he is capable then why not now? Maybe I should just not bother anymore and not make effort towards him learning to do things he doesn't feel like doing? It just makes it harder on me when I have to clean up the toys spread across the floor because he doesn't want to or put the dirty clothes in the hamper because he doesn't want to. I just think putting the effort in to make him more independent will go a long way even if it is a little struggle to get him to that point. But my fiance aparentely disagrees.
Tana·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)
@camdens_mommy, I wasn't showing any frustration towards the kid. I only got mad once my fiance went against what I was trying to get him to do. He's capable of putting his own underwear on and has done so before it's just a matter of not wanting to do it.
Emma·
Мама двоих (младенец)
no no i totally understand not saying your wrong or forcing him maybe talk to your fiancé and tell him he's 3 lets start teaching him to do independent things such as, pulling up his underwear. He should understand what your saying:)
Tana·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)
@emmajeremy2627, it's more a matter of won't do it than can't do it with him. He knows how and has been show many times and done it himself plenty of times. Sometimes they end up on backwards or inside out or both which is fine because at this point I just would like for him to do for himself instead of trying to have someone else do it. At one point during this he had them on and just needed to pull them up but looked at me and took them off again. He seems to just not want to do things for himself because he likes when other people do things for him. And I feel like dad is just encouraging him to not be independent by not standing by me and telling him to try on his own. I'm not evil and trying to force him to do something he has no idea how to do I just want him to be independent and have dad be on board with that.
Erin·
Totally agree with @emmajeremy2627 He is only three.... My son at 7 still fights to get ready it's just a kid thing. Take the time to show him and give him praise when he does so himself. If you get frustrated and mad of course his dad will step in... No one wants their 3 year old to feel sad :(
Emma·
Мама двоих (младенец)
i understand being independent but why not show and help him a few times. start the morning off saying ok were gonna learn how to put on our own underwear. place his hands on the sides of them and then put yours over and help him pull them up. after a few tries in an excited voice say ok you try! when he does finally get it give lots of praise and tell him thats how big boys do it.
he might just not fully understand it. Make it a fun learning and teaching:)
hope that helps
Tana·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)
@jahnessagarcia, That's what I tried telling him. That I don't want him to be 5 years old still unable to put his own underwear on. I think it was more the fact that I told his son to do something and then my fiance just disregarded it and did it for him anyway. He says he wants me to treat him like he's my son but then acts like I don't know what I'm doing and I'm just trying to be mean.
Jahnessa·
Мама дочки-младенца
Definitely not wrong! My brother is 6 years old and still won't dress himself or do anything himself because my parents do everything for him! I think it is good that you want him to have that independence hopefully your husband comes around.