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Rachel
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Мама четверых детей

Can I vent for a second? So my 2 year old is non verbal, and has shown many red flags for autism. He took the M-chat and…

Can I vent for a second? So my 2 year old is non verbal, and has shown many red flags for autism. He took the M-chat and scored a 9 which puts him in the category "high risk" for autism. My nephew is very autistic (he's 5) silent genius type it is crazy!! I know it's hard on my sister though, and my husband sees that too. My husband tends to make things about himself, and make situations harder than they need to be. Lately he's been working on getting an investor for our company all the while the entire sales team quit making the work place extremely stressful, so since my husband has been dealing with that solo I thought it would be better to withhold information about our son having to get screened (believe me it was in his best interest)Well yesterday he checked the mail and saw the welcome packet to the clinic, and absolutely flipped out. Calling me a liar, telling me he's getting a vasectomy this week (this is a big back and forth battle for us), calling me awful names in front of our children, threatening to harm himself, and blaming everyone especially our kids for "ruining his life and happiness." I'm so hurt today. I hate him. He has said and done more aggressive selfish things in the past, but the fact that I can't trust my husband with my feelings, or with our kids security and confidence kills me inside. Where's my rock? Why is he the reason I'm stressed out? Why do I feel the need to hide things from him to protect him, and myself from his reaction? Why can't he make his family's feelings a priority? 😞

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housfullofgrls

Jessie

Мама двоих (4 года, 6 лет), ждёт третьего

You need to get away from him. That's so abusive and awful. Your kids don't need to start thinking there's something wrong with you or them

mdomke22

Mel

Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (17 нед.)

that's how it gets with my bd.... and one day after 4.5 yrs he ended up putting hands on me one drunk night. I think you need to leave the situation... Ino it's hard but it will be alot harder when your babies gotta see him putting his hands on you. even if he doesn't put his hands on you that is still too stressful for kids to be around 24/7

midwestgirl16

Tasha

Мама сына (1 год), беременна (28 нед.)

Honestly I would let him cool off and talk to him ask him what he meant by those things and just tell him your intentions of keeping it from him...if he truly blames the kids for his unhappiness then its time to leave

forever223

Rachel

Мама четверых детей

Thanks ladies ❤️ I can't leave him. We all have our struggles, and I don't feel that would solve our problems. I'm not scared of him by any means, but heart broken by him. He is going out of town for a week, so some time apart will be good. We need to find proper outlets for our frustration, and work on our communication. Our neighbor is a Christian psychologist who I've thought about setting up an appointment with. With everything going on in our lives I feel like that may help us rebuild our trust, relationship, and family. @babes101116 @mdomke22 @midwestgirl16

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